The Same
More changes happen, yet more things stay the same.. I have a lot of things going on at once a lot of the time, and yet it feels like spinning my wheels a lot of the time. It all comes down to streamlining at the moment.
Cutting people out of my life that have turned toxic is amazing. I am quite happy about this. People who can't call unless they need something. People who have filled their lives with an element that is toxic to them and all they have touched. These people are out. Removing these people has been a very positive experience for me. It's like a weight has been lifted from me. Yes, there are still issues/ problems in my life, but there were before. Walking away from toxic people won't cure my mom's cancer, or make my job pay a fair wage for the work done. Walking away from drama and poor choice aligned people doesn't change the political climate, feed my cats, get me a new car, or create an easier time moving, but it does create an environment better to deal with the parts that suck in life. Reducing the amount of negativity visited on me creates an environment better to deal with what I cannot change. I am thankful for the times that were good with the relationships (friendships, acquaintances) that went toxic over time, but once something goes irreparably wrong, it's time to move on.
Not everyone I walked away from needed to be a permanent move, and they may not all be permanent changes, but for me, for now, it's important to realize that this needed to happen. Being messaged from someone's house who threatened me, about how the person messaging is feeling uncomfortable with people showing up on 4/20, after embracing people living the "drug culture" lifestyle is probably a large RED FLAG that something is wrong here. Especially after the person can't return texts that are funny, fun, or not helping them out. Receiving one word messages until someone is demanding that I give them something is another sign that I they are not someone I need to be around any longer. People who can't be bothered to give me information essential to doing them a favor, and then bad mouth me for not helping them out are pointless. Only being texted by someone if they need a ride, a favor, or something made for them would be another red flag, especially if they can't be bothered to RSVP for anything that they don't get anything from. Being expected to hand hold and comfort or support someone who suddenly is being "overwhelmed" when the topic switches from their life is definitely something that needs to end. People who have decided to start talking behind my back (and calling me a slut) while going on a promiscuity spree, huge sign I need to walk away. These people are not worth my time.
Giving part of my life, time, money, food, etc is not something that I usually have a problem with. Giving is something that is quite easy for me, but there comes a time when it's just too much. If my life is so overwhelming because the attention is no longer on them, then I must not be okay to keep around for them in any way. Calling or returning messages being "too much" is something that I can understand. Socialization is hard, and if keeping me in that loop is too hard, then I can walk out completely, but that means that I won't be there when they need me to fix it all either. The idea that I will be tossed aside until needed to fix things is ridiculous, and not something that ANYONE should tolerate. All the people like that are gone, well - all that aren't close blood relatives. From here on in, it will be different.
Cutting people out of my life that have turned toxic is amazing. I am quite happy about this. People who can't call unless they need something. People who have filled their lives with an element that is toxic to them and all they have touched. These people are out. Removing these people has been a very positive experience for me. It's like a weight has been lifted from me. Yes, there are still issues/ problems in my life, but there were before. Walking away from toxic people won't cure my mom's cancer, or make my job pay a fair wage for the work done. Walking away from drama and poor choice aligned people doesn't change the political climate, feed my cats, get me a new car, or create an easier time moving, but it does create an environment better to deal with the parts that suck in life. Reducing the amount of negativity visited on me creates an environment better to deal with what I cannot change. I am thankful for the times that were good with the relationships (friendships, acquaintances) that went toxic over time, but once something goes irreparably wrong, it's time to move on.
Not everyone I walked away from needed to be a permanent move, and they may not all be permanent changes, but for me, for now, it's important to realize that this needed to happen. Being messaged from someone's house who threatened me, about how the person messaging is feeling uncomfortable with people showing up on 4/20, after embracing people living the "drug culture" lifestyle is probably a large RED FLAG that something is wrong here. Especially after the person can't return texts that are funny, fun, or not helping them out. Receiving one word messages until someone is demanding that I give them something is another sign that I they are not someone I need to be around any longer. People who can't be bothered to give me information essential to doing them a favor, and then bad mouth me for not helping them out are pointless. Only being texted by someone if they need a ride, a favor, or something made for them would be another red flag, especially if they can't be bothered to RSVP for anything that they don't get anything from. Being expected to hand hold and comfort or support someone who suddenly is being "overwhelmed" when the topic switches from their life is definitely something that needs to end. People who have decided to start talking behind my back (and calling me a slut) while going on a promiscuity spree, huge sign I need to walk away. These people are not worth my time.
Giving part of my life, time, money, food, etc is not something that I usually have a problem with. Giving is something that is quite easy for me, but there comes a time when it's just too much. If my life is so overwhelming because the attention is no longer on them, then I must not be okay to keep around for them in any way. Calling or returning messages being "too much" is something that I can understand. Socialization is hard, and if keeping me in that loop is too hard, then I can walk out completely, but that means that I won't be there when they need me to fix it all either. The idea that I will be tossed aside until needed to fix things is ridiculous, and not something that ANYONE should tolerate. All the people like that are gone, well - all that aren't close blood relatives. From here on in, it will be different.