Actually, this (the talk) nearly happened already. When I first found out about the meeting, I said "that figures" and left it at that. When I found out about John, I quietly hit the roof. The people who KNOW me knew something was wrong. They asked. I said "they took credit for the database, then they took ownership of it away from me." They all quietly hit the roof, too. Well, not so much, as it was not so personal to them. But they were angry on my behalf.
Someone said something to Shanon about it. So Thursday he pulled me aside to start the ass kissing. Up till that point, he'd been avoiding eye contact and steering clear of me as much as possible. We went into an office, and had this discussion:
"I understand you're upset" "Yes, I am." "Is it the database?" "Yes, it is." "I want you to know that this is no reflection on you. This isn't about what you did or didn't do." "I hadn't thought it was." "I was as surprised as you that John is taking over the database." "I see." "Are you ok?" "I'm disappointed and angry. I'll get over it." "Is there anything I can do?" "No. I think you've already done all you can."
*** Begin the era of ass kissing ***
Sorry, that's as direct as I could be. I lean heavily on the passive side of my passive aggression.
Someone said something to Shanon about it. So Thursday he pulled me aside to start the ass kissing. Up till that point, he'd been avoiding eye contact and steering clear of me as much as possible. We went into an office, and had this discussion:
"I understand you're upset"
"Yes, I am."
"Is it the database?"
"Yes, it is."
"I want you to know that this is no reflection on you. This isn't about what you did or didn't do."
"I hadn't thought it was."
"I was as surprised as you that John is taking over the database."
"I see."
"Are you ok?"
"I'm disappointed and angry. I'll get over it."
"Is there anything I can do?"
"No. I think you've already done all you can."
*** Begin the era of ass kissing ***
Sorry, that's as direct as I could be. I lean heavily on the passive side of my passive aggression.
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