Hi I'm new
I've been a cutter for a little more than a year....I love how it feels when blood flows, it's like I am cleaning my veins from metaphorical poisons and washing away all impurities. I do it mostly to stop feeling so &^#$%^& numb and also this is weird but to focus/meditate & remember who I am....it also makes me feel strong when I do it, that I
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Identify the 'trigger' that gives you the urge to cut. The moment you have the urge to cut, stop and think of what has just occurred. Remember it and try to avoid these situations. For example, if you've just had an argument with somebody close to you, and are having the urge to cut, stop and ask yourself what's making you feel this way; "I feel like cutting myself because I've just had an argument with somebody I love, and it's making me feel really bad." Determine what in particular makes this situation trigger off negative emotions: a certain feeling, or maybe an action? Work on reducing this issue until you have it under control or completely diminished.
If you need to hurt yourself, do it in a controlled and less harmful way. A good idea is to wear a rubber band around your wrist. Every time you want to cut, snap the rubber band against your wrist instead. You can also draw on your wrist with red pen, or rub an ice cube on your wrist. Although all of these cause some immediate pain, it is much milder and much less dangerous.
Express your emotions. For example, when you feel like cutting, try doing one or more of the following:
Drawing or scribbling on paper
Painting, on white paper
Get a punch bag or some sort, relieve your anger on it
Listening to music that relates to your emotions. I don't want to rule this out but for most people this will only make those emotions stronger. This is a very bad thing if this emotions are leading to cutting yourself.
I would try to find music that can change your emotions not intensify them.
Squeeze ice cubes until they melt.
Writing down your emotions in a diary/journal
Writing songs/poetry
Call a friend
After a day or so, analyze what you have done. Try to determine how you felt, and what you can do to reduce or stop these emotions, or work around them.
Distract yourself. Some people feel that rather than analysing their emotions, they feel better when they get rid of them or forget them completely. When you feel the urge to cut, try distracting yourself by trying out the following:
Drink a glass of water
Watch TV
Do some form of exercise-run, walk, ride your bike, or just dance like crazy
Take your dog for a walk, or spend some time with a pet
As soon as you feel the urge to cut yourself, take a deep breath, fold your arms, close your eyes and relax. Tell yourself that you are not going to cut. Get away from any objects you may use to harm yourself so it's not as easy to break your resolution. If possible, lie down somewhere. Stay like this until the urge goes, then quickly phone a help line or use another means of getting help.
Screaming at the top of your lungs helps. Try virtually anything you can (as long as it's legal and healthy) to stop the urge to cut. Screaming into a pillow or finding a quiet place to let rip really helps.
Speak out loud about what is causing you so much pain. Talk about it - even to yourself, in the privacy of your bedroom: even yelling to yourself to release the tension inside of you - but do not cut or hurt yourself at all. Talking out loud in clear, understandable words will make your situation clearer and more easy to resolve.
Help yourself by imagining how you are able to be like a best friend. As if a friend was just about to cut herself, what would you say to stop your good friend? How would you distract them, how would you support them and get them to stop? Apply these answers to yourself.
Recognize that cutting is just the symptom of a root problem. Think about what makes you want to cut yourself. Now you are ready to seek and get help. Doctors and trained staff from all kinds of services have been taught especially to help people in your situation. No matter what your issue, age, gender, or background, never feel ashamed to seek help.
Love yourself. If you hate yourself there's a good chance you want to hurt yourself when you feel bad. No matter what anyone else tells or or what you think they think about you, you should love yourself. When you love someone, you don't hurt them. Love yourself and don't hurt yourself.
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