I am the weekend toy
Today is Tuesday.The last time I heard from him was Sunday. This is pretty normal for him. He doesn't call during the week. Only during the weekend. Why? The possibilities are a few I think, but the reality only one. He doesn't care to call me just to talk, to find out how I am doing or to tell me how he is doing. Yes, he knows I would like him to call. Not every day. I don't need a call every day but I do want the contact here and there.
I'm busy too, I have a life, responsibilities to care for, meetings to go, other people to care about. But he is the only one I chose to date among several options (we have been dating for over two months). He,the most unavailable one. I believe my choice says something about myself, something that I almost didn't want to admit. That after all the 'preparation' for a healthy and great romantic relationship perhaps I'm not as ready after all. So I pick the emotionally unavailable one, the convenient one, the no commitment one. Yet here I am wishing he would call. It's this a contradiction or what?
Him:
42 years old.
Professional.
Never been married.
No children.
Broke up with his girlfriend of 10 years about 6 months ago.
Dated one woman for two months before me.
Going to counseling for his commitment issues.
Average looking ( I find him attractive but the first time I met thought he was average, so I try to remember that to not be bias now )
Good physical shape.
Active.
Smart.
Me:
37 years old.
Professional.
Have been married twice.
Have children.
Been divorced for about 4 years
Had one boyfriend for about a year. It's been over for about 1 1/2 years.
Above average looking (just trying to keep it objective here)
Great physical shape.
Very active.
Smart.
When we are together we have a great time. We are only together on the weekends because during the week we live in different cities. He has a house in the county I live and comes to it on the weekends. Then, he calls :-)
So, is it that "HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO ME"?
I'm busy too, I have a life, responsibilities to care for, meetings to go, other people to care about. But he is the only one I chose to date among several options (we have been dating for over two months). He,the most unavailable one. I believe my choice says something about myself, something that I almost didn't want to admit. That after all the 'preparation' for a healthy and great romantic relationship perhaps I'm not as ready after all. So I pick the emotionally unavailable one, the convenient one, the no commitment one. Yet here I am wishing he would call. It's this a contradiction or what?
Him:
42 years old.
Professional.
Never been married.
No children.
Broke up with his girlfriend of 10 years about 6 months ago.
Dated one woman for two months before me.
Going to counseling for his commitment issues.
Average looking ( I find him attractive but the first time I met thought he was average, so I try to remember that to not be bias now )
Good physical shape.
Active.
Smart.
Me:
37 years old.
Professional.
Have been married twice.
Have children.
Been divorced for about 4 years
Had one boyfriend for about a year. It's been over for about 1 1/2 years.
Above average looking (just trying to keep it objective here)
Great physical shape.
Very active.
Smart.
When we are together we have a great time. We are only together on the weekends because during the week we live in different cities. He has a house in the county I live and comes to it on the weekends. Then, he calls :-)
So, is it that "HE IS JUST NOT THAT INTO ME"?