Wow - you do sound somewhat like me... Except it was one cat and now I can't have any pets where I live, LOL.
I guess there's a couple of options you do have, though - it's really more up to whether being along *bothers* you. You can volunteer somewhere (up to you if you want to be around potential guys or kids), you can adopt, a friend even had artificial insemination. If you want to be around people, you could try dating workshops, singles' activities, or even talking to a shrink.
A relative (who was more interested in being married than I am) met her husband after she'd "given up" actively looking and decided to spend time working on quilting. (And while I really like her husband - and her - and I think they'll stay married, I'm not sure they are the most suited couple. But they do work on it.)
But I dunno. I sort of have "given up" and spend efforts on other things. And while I can't say that when I'm in my 70s it won't be a source of feeling annoyed, I've seen enough unhappy marriages that exist because that was what people thought they should do that I can't willingly put myself in that position. And the one set of friends who have a "storybook" marriage - well, I think it's more they both have issues and support each other (and feed into each other's issues, sometimes not in a healthy way). At least they're no longer leaving the dead bodies they left behind them when they first got together.
For the most part, it seems to me that the couples who are the worst are those who got together because they were "supposed" to. The ones who could never stand to be single, who always had to have someone else to validate them (worryingly enough, my brother and his fiancee remind me of one of these.)
The difficult part is that in the area of the country I live in, it's almost as if there's something wrong or broken if you're in my kind of situation. I've gotten much better at ignoring it, but some nights are more difficult than others.
I guess there's a couple of options you do have, though - it's really more up to whether being along *bothers* you. You can volunteer somewhere (up to you if you want to be around potential guys or kids), you can adopt, a friend even had artificial insemination. If you want to be around people, you could try dating workshops, singles' activities, or even talking to a shrink.
A relative (who was more interested in being married than I am) met her husband after she'd "given up" actively looking and decided to spend time working on quilting. (And while I really like her husband - and her - and I think they'll stay married, I'm not sure they are the most suited couple. But they do work on it.)
But I dunno. I sort of have "given up" and spend efforts on other things. And while I can't say that when I'm in my 70s it won't be a source of feeling annoyed, I've seen enough unhappy marriages that exist because that was what people thought they should do that I can't willingly put myself in that position. And the one set of friends who have a "storybook" marriage - well, I think it's more they both have issues and support each other (and feed into each other's issues, sometimes not in a healthy way). At least they're no longer leaving the dead bodies they left behind them when they first got together.
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The difficult part is that in the area of the country I live in, it's almost as if there's something wrong or broken if you're in my kind of situation. I've gotten much better at ignoring it, but some nights are more difficult than others.
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