Backstabbing in the kingdom...
So yeah I never update my livejournal, it seems, unless I hit a huge dead spot of boredom or unless something bad happens. Its the end of the semester so I wish I were updating because of a giant spell of boredom, however that is not the case. Sadly it is because something bad has happened... namely there is a nasty schizm that just occured in the apartment.
The backstory is that my girlfriend, Butterfly, has been living in my room with me (and obviously then in the apartment with all of us) since the beginning of the semester. This arraingment has made me completely happy as being able to sleep with a beautifull girl in my arms every night is nothing short of amazing. Up untill now I havent seen a single problem. Up untill now...
My roomates called a "house meeting" this evening. This house meeting had bad vibes attached to it, which naturally is a bad bad thing. The meeting seemed to have one thing on the agenda... and a SHADY, SHADY one thing at that. Basically, from what it seems, Gina, Nicky, Trevor, and Chris decided that Butterfly cannot live in the apartment with us (read: me) in the fall. **Keep in mind here that I was never involved in or informed of any of this beforehand.**
The reason they cite for kicking Butterly out is that there are too many people living in this apartment and that the natural solution is to kick out the person who is not on the lease. On the surface this seems like valid reasoning, I suppose. Sure this is a 4 bedroom apartment and there are currently 6 people living here. Sure this apartment is insanely small. Citing that there is not enough room in this apartment to manuver when there are 6 people and 2 cats living here, they said that Butterfly could not live here in the fall.
Take into consiteration however the fact that, I live in the smallest room of the apartment. Take into consiteration the fact that aside from toothbrushes and towels in the bathroom and 2 cassette tapes in the living room, and a couple of dishes in the kitchen, that we have NO physical objects taking up space outside of this room in which I live. Our physical belongings do not take up space. Keep in mind the fact that we live allmost exclusively in this room, venturing out into the rest of the apartment to use the bathroom and to get food from the kitchen (which we eat in the bedroom). A vast majority of the time we are in the bedroom and completely out of their way. Now, looking at that evidence as it stands one might come to the conclusion that kicking out Butterfly would not solve the problem of overcrouding in the apartment. Seeing as we basically live in the shadows and out of the way in the first place. When looked at this way the logic of "its too crouded in there, so we must kick out the person not on the lease" makes no sense because, although it is the logical solution, it is not going to solve the problem.
The other thing to take into consiteration is the fact that they have put me in a VERY bad spot. They went behind my back and I did not know there was even thought of this untill the meeting this evening, where I was taken totally off guard. As a person who is on the lease in the apartment I should at least have a bit of a say in the matter. Even if the concept of "majority rules" applies, its still not fair to not even include the minority voice in the vote. Furthermore in this sort of case it should not even be a case of "majority rules"... thats not how things like this should be decided. It's not fair.
You cannot go behind someones back on an issue that greatly impacts their life, you just cant. You have to at the bare minimum get their input at the outset of the conflict. You cannot go behind someones back on this sort of thing just (presumably) because they are the lone dissenting oppinion. ESPECIALLY when it involves kicking out the person they love.
Its not fair.
Now it is my responsability to take the defence on something in which I should have had a deciding oppinion, or at least voice, on in the first place. That is a cold place to put a roomate.
The backstory is that my girlfriend, Butterfly, has been living in my room with me (and obviously then in the apartment with all of us) since the beginning of the semester. This arraingment has made me completely happy as being able to sleep with a beautifull girl in my arms every night is nothing short of amazing. Up untill now I havent seen a single problem. Up untill now...
My roomates called a "house meeting" this evening. This house meeting had bad vibes attached to it, which naturally is a bad bad thing. The meeting seemed to have one thing on the agenda... and a SHADY, SHADY one thing at that. Basically, from what it seems, Gina, Nicky, Trevor, and Chris decided that Butterfly cannot live in the apartment with us (read: me) in the fall. **Keep in mind here that I was never involved in or informed of any of this beforehand.**
The reason they cite for kicking Butterly out is that there are too many people living in this apartment and that the natural solution is to kick out the person who is not on the lease. On the surface this seems like valid reasoning, I suppose. Sure this is a 4 bedroom apartment and there are currently 6 people living here. Sure this apartment is insanely small. Citing that there is not enough room in this apartment to manuver when there are 6 people and 2 cats living here, they said that Butterfly could not live here in the fall.
Take into consiteration however the fact that, I live in the smallest room of the apartment. Take into consiteration the fact that aside from toothbrushes and towels in the bathroom and 2 cassette tapes in the living room, and a couple of dishes in the kitchen, that we have NO physical objects taking up space outside of this room in which I live. Our physical belongings do not take up space. Keep in mind the fact that we live allmost exclusively in this room, venturing out into the rest of the apartment to use the bathroom and to get food from the kitchen (which we eat in the bedroom). A vast majority of the time we are in the bedroom and completely out of their way. Now, looking at that evidence as it stands one might come to the conclusion that kicking out Butterfly would not solve the problem of overcrouding in the apartment. Seeing as we basically live in the shadows and out of the way in the first place. When looked at this way the logic of "its too crouded in there, so we must kick out the person not on the lease" makes no sense because, although it is the logical solution, it is not going to solve the problem.
The other thing to take into consiteration is the fact that they have put me in a VERY bad spot. They went behind my back and I did not know there was even thought of this untill the meeting this evening, where I was taken totally off guard. As a person who is on the lease in the apartment I should at least have a bit of a say in the matter. Even if the concept of "majority rules" applies, its still not fair to not even include the minority voice in the vote. Furthermore in this sort of case it should not even be a case of "majority rules"... thats not how things like this should be decided. It's not fair.
You cannot go behind someones back on an issue that greatly impacts their life, you just cant. You have to at the bare minimum get their input at the outset of the conflict. You cannot go behind someones back on this sort of thing just (presumably) because they are the lone dissenting oppinion. ESPECIALLY when it involves kicking out the person they love.
Its not fair.
Now it is my responsability to take the defence on something in which I should have had a deciding oppinion, or at least voice, on in the first place. That is a cold place to put a roomate.