Dec 22, 2011 04:00
Dad is back in hospital with a brain bleed on the right side. They originally thought it was a small bleed with temporary paralysis of the vocal chords. Unfortunatley the bleeding continue and has infiltrated right motor function and outgoing language centres.
Dr's seem to think he can hear and comprehend what is going on, but unable to respond.
Very likely will render him paralysed on the right side as well as the left. He's lost the ability to speak, nod his head and blink on command.
Due to the damage on his left side, relearning is not usually sucessful.
If he survives, there is a small chance he might regain some of those functions.
The odds of him surviving the next 12 - 48 hours are 50%
We have decided to put the DNR up.
We did however decided to continue feeding and treatment. Dad does seem to be letting us know he's still in there. He is doing his feet exercises with which seems to be the only part of his body that is still under his control.
Its unconscionable to allow him to become dehydrated or have an empty stomach while he's still in there. As the brain starts to swell and press on his respiration centres and he becomes drowsy, it won't be a bigger deal.
If he makes it out of this, he will certainly almost be trapped in his body unable to communicate. Dad was struggling with his extensive left side paralysis as it was.
I can't bring myself to agree to denying him life sustaining treatment while he is alert enough to know who is around him and where he is and who is talking to him.
Mum and David are holding vigil tonight. Auk has the rest of the week off to help me juggle hospital visits and Abby. Any notion of Christmas has falllen by the wayside.
Not how I thought Abby's first Christmas was going to go. Thankfully she's not aware of the anguish that is going on around her.
I did not think we would be in this situation so soon and certainly not at Christmas.
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change,
Courage to change the things I can,
And wisdom to know the difference.
Take kindly the counsel of the years, gracefully surrendering the things of youth. Nurture strength of spirit to shield you in sudden misfortune. But do not distress yourself with dark imaginings. Many fears are born of fatigue and loneliness. Beyond a wholesome discipline, be gentle with yourself. You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars; you have a right to be here. And whether or not it is clear to you, no doubt the universe is unfolding as it should. Therefore be at peace with God, whatever you conceive Him to be, and whatever your labors and aspirations, in the noisy confusion of life keep peace with your soul.
-F-