on books and general

[pence]

It feels like a ring has tightened around my head. I think it’s from starring too much in the pages of the book. My eyes are all tingly for the same reasons. “The Time Traveler’s Wife” is the current choice for the pass time. A science fiction meet “Great Expectation” and a tender love story come out of this unusual engagement. An idolized

Comments

[branwen]

I think that you definitely need to renew romantic love. And spending time away is good in a few different ways. One is being away from the person, and missing them, and feeling the contrast so that you don't get too used to being around them that you cease to remember fully just how wonderful it really is. Another way that being away sometimes is good is that it gives you some new experiences by yourself, and in that way helps you to keep contributing something new to the relationship. And getting away like that could mean putting interest in what you do, individually. Getting involved in things by yourself feeds you as a person, and makes you feel more whole in a relationship. Likewise, taking time alone, to just spend time doing not much at all is good, too. Where you can just sit alone with your thoughts sometimes. I know that Lev didn't get enough of that kind of time when I was living with him. It was pretty overwhelming for him back then, juggling school, work, and me when I didn't have my own fulfilling life. So yeah, I think you definitely have some valid points there. There's a needed balance to keep between individuality and togetherness, and time apart can contribute well. Too much time apart, however, leads to frustration. :/ ...Delicate balance, it is.
It's an interesting subject, thank you :)

[pence]

I’ve always knew the above thought is inescapable once you are in a relationship and this book reminded me about it once again. I hear what you’re saying about having your own full life before you can complete someone else’s. One word you’ve used describes nicely the entire subject: contrast. Much like we do not notice how are loved ones age we notice it immediately if we go away for a period. Without contrast, we fail to notice. And what is more pathetic then unnoticed romantic love.