Why I dislike the fashionistas, but tolerate them
When we begin to compare ourselves to others, almost nothing good can come from it. There will always be someone we perceive as more beautiful, more intelligent, or more charismatic and accomplished. It took years for me to just accept who I am, which I think is a good, intelligent and compassionate human being. I don't read blogs about fashion because I really have no positive emotions toward this industry. Despite the mind tricks they play, I think one of the core foundations of this business is to make women feel inferior, not fantastic or worthy.
Almost all magazines or billboards depict glossy images of females with the most perfect genetics on the planet, sculpted bone structure, and often very unrealistic body frames. It's a fantasy world, and while I'm a dreamer, I prefer to live in reality in some cases, and appearance is one of them. I think people are most beautiful in their natural state, without all kinds of artificial painting and accessories. It somehow distorts the core essence of a being, and for me presents an added layer to peel back. I'm most attracted to humans in a more raw state, both physically and emotionally. Not those who hide behind fabricated illusions.
You can look at many scandals online and see that these visions of "beauty" generated by the fashion industry are also mere fabrications, created with the click of a mouse through Photoshop - cellulite wiped clean, a fleshy stomach smoothed and sculpted, the list of physical alterations is really endless, and they seriously warp the confidence of too many young girls, leading them to all types of eating disorders and neuroses about appearance. I find the behavior of these fashion industry beasts to be disgusting, and for this reason, I've never been a fashionista or given a damn about expensive brand clothing, handbags and similar things. Not in my 20's, and not now in my 40's. I understand some people get some type of satisfaction or euphoria from such things, and it is their right, but to say I have some relation to this mentality would be a complete lie.
I was reminded of this recently when one of my lawyer friends posted the image of a model wearing a pair of high-priced red sunglasses. I think they cost around $350, and I wrote to her that from a distance, it would be difficult to tell them apart from the free glasses I wore in San Antonio, when I viewed a 3D movie. These glasses were likely covered in all kinds of germs, snot from children and other unhygienic nightmares, but the movie was awesome and memorable. :) Of course, eyes and sight are precious gifts and worth protecting with quality eye wear, but $350!?! Is it really necessary?
People work very hard for their money, and if they're lucky enough to have some left over after bills are paid, they should spend it as they wish. My money goes mostly for basic necessities, and spare funds are directed to only two things - travel and music/concerts. Each time I hear a male lawyer in my office complaining about the price he paid for a new handbag his diva craved, my head spins and I think about how many trips I could have taken for $2,000. How many new places and people I could've encountered, and whether a $2,000 purse is really that much better in quality than the $40 one I carry?
That's it. :) There's no real point to the post, except to show this funny picture collage and express my views about a topic that's important to many women, but not all. In the world, there's room for both types of females, and male suitors all over the globe are actively pursing each. With a lot of passion and vigor. :)
Btw, I also wear make-up on occasion, put on dresses and heels, and like artistic photo shoots. But if a man should demand that I look this way everyday, he's definitely not the man for me. Because I'm really just a jeans and t-shirts kind of gal, ready to pick up and go on a grand journey to some exotic, remote corner of the world at a moment's notice...and heels hinder mobility in such places. :)
Have a great weekend!