Could you whisper in my ear the things you want to feel?
What's kicking?
I have a question for you all
There is something that really confuses me about people that are supposed to be in a long-term relationships with people they claim to be in love with.
How many of you can say, without a doubt, that you feel entirely open and free to talk about your feelings when you're in a relationship?
I ask this because pretty much every day someone tells me they don't feel able to share their emotions with the person who is supposed to know them inside out. And it's sad to hear. I wonder, is this because they have issues being open in general or is it because they aren't close enough with their partner (to feel comfortable to be able to express their feelings)?
Could be both sometimes, but whatever the case may be, I personally believe you can not have a true love if you can't communicate your feelings to each other. I figure that if you can't communicate your feelings then that must mean you aren't the best of friends. Because in that kind of best friend relationship you'll share everything, right? Well, I believe you should; that's my definition of a best friend, anyway. If you don't have that kind of really close relationship then what kind of relationship do you have? Isn't it just kind of superficial? That's fine if you're a kind of person who isn't fussed either way, but I can't agree with people who think they're deeply in love with someone they can't fully open themselves up to. Why? Because if you can't talk to them and can't be yourself around them, then they'll never really know you. You can't be in love with someone you don't really know. You can love them, sure, but you can't truly be in love with them. Communication is one of the most important factors in order to keep a relationship going strong. I know each person has their own idea on what is important to them in a relationship, but to me, if I can't be my complete self around someone, and fully open up, they will never be able to reach me at that level of love.
And also, it's not even with partners. people need to really start being more open with everyone. about everything. it sucks that we can't be sometimes, for whatever reason.
That's why I say I don't love my family - it's because I don't know them. I can appreciate and be grateful for all they've done for me and whatever fun we've had together, but I don't really feel I love them. That doesn't mean I hate them, I just feel nothing for them. They are just people, who I don't know and who don't know me. Which is sad to say, but that's how it goes.
... g2g, phone call.
I have a question for you all
There is something that really confuses me about people that are supposed to be in a long-term relationships with people they claim to be in love with.
How many of you can say, without a doubt, that you feel entirely open and free to talk about your feelings when you're in a relationship?
I ask this because pretty much every day someone tells me they don't feel able to share their emotions with the person who is supposed to know them inside out. And it's sad to hear. I wonder, is this because they have issues being open in general or is it because they aren't close enough with their partner (to feel comfortable to be able to express their feelings)?
Could be both sometimes, but whatever the case may be, I personally believe you can not have a true love if you can't communicate your feelings to each other. I figure that if you can't communicate your feelings then that must mean you aren't the best of friends. Because in that kind of best friend relationship you'll share everything, right? Well, I believe you should; that's my definition of a best friend, anyway. If you don't have that kind of really close relationship then what kind of relationship do you have? Isn't it just kind of superficial? That's fine if you're a kind of person who isn't fussed either way, but I can't agree with people who think they're deeply in love with someone they can't fully open themselves up to. Why? Because if you can't talk to them and can't be yourself around them, then they'll never really know you. You can't be in love with someone you don't really know. You can love them, sure, but you can't truly be in love with them. Communication is one of the most important factors in order to keep a relationship going strong. I know each person has their own idea on what is important to them in a relationship, but to me, if I can't be my complete self around someone, and fully open up, they will never be able to reach me at that level of love.
And also, it's not even with partners. people need to really start being more open with everyone. about everything. it sucks that we can't be sometimes, for whatever reason.
That's why I say I don't love my family - it's because I don't know them. I can appreciate and be grateful for all they've done for me and whatever fun we've had together, but I don't really feel I love them. That doesn't mean I hate them, I just feel nothing for them. They are just people, who I don't know and who don't know me. Which is sad to say, but that's how it goes.
... g2g, phone call.