Some fears should be faced. Perhaps you are scared of being stuck in an elevator. You need to face that fear. But some things can't be faced, and perhaps the shouldn't be
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I have an anxiety disorder, so fear is a constant for me. I used to be terrified of death - not of something happening after, but of absolutely nothing happening after. I've always been terrified of the fact that I just won't exist. And I won't be conscious of it, but it always terrified me to think that we're here and then we're nothing.
The last three years has changed a lot for me in terms of how I think of death. I've been caring for my elderly grandparents. One of them is very sick and probably doesn't have a lot of time left. Talking with him about death, as someone who has to think about it as more than just a future possibility (it's happening soon, and he knows that), has been a big thing. Spending a lot of time with him in hospitals, being hospitalized twice this year myself, and having to discuss what will happen after he dies in a very to-the-point way... I'm not as scared of what comes after. I'm a bit scared of what comes before and during, but after is not such a frightening prospect.
As for facing that fear, death isn't something you can escape. I'm going to have to face that fear whether I want to or not. I have no choice.
The last three years has changed a lot for me in terms of how I think of death. I've been caring for my elderly grandparents. One of them is very sick and probably doesn't have a lot of time left. Talking with him about death, as someone who has to think about it as more than just a future possibility (it's happening soon, and he knows that), has been a big thing. Spending a lot of time with him in hospitals, being hospitalized twice this year myself, and having to discuss what will happen after he dies in a very to-the-point way... I'm not as scared of what comes after. I'm a bit scared of what comes before and during, but after is not such a frightening prospect.
As for facing that fear, death isn't something you can escape. I'm going to have to face that fear whether I want to or not. I have no choice.
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