So... is it right to assume you are in college? I remember reading in one of your previous posts that you were starting college classes. If that's the case, I kind of just wanted to share my thoughts on your situation (even if you're younger, it should still apply). Being 4 years out of college myself, and now acting as an "adult" in the real world, I can definitely relate to your feelings desperation that come off in this post. Of course, the situations are different, but also similar. Even though it was some time ago, I still remember what that time was like! ;P
What was the reason you moved to a new school, if you don't mind me asking? If you made that decision, I think maybe the best thing for you to do it to make the best of your decision! If not, well... you're here now, and there's really not a reason to hold back! :D
I think that the most important part of finding new friends is... really it sounds silly... but act like you are friends with them already. I know at work I often feel out of place and completely unqualified, but if you act like you own the place... people tend to believe it. Are there clubs or extra curricular activities you can take part in? In college I met many good friends through clubs, because everyone is there for the same reason (often a love of whatever is going on in the club), so some of that rapport is already there for you.
As far as regretting the loss of friends... it's understandable that you might long for the connections you had in the past. But dwelling on them is definitely not a productive activity! You have your whole life in front of you, I tend to live by the motto "no regrets" things are as they are meant to be, and your attitude will create your future.
I'm sorry you're going through a tough time, and even though I don't comment much on your posts, I do read them! So if you ever need anyone to vent to, I'm just a PM away! Take care xoxo
Yes, I did start college just now, but the college students will not be arriving until next Monday. They gave the younger kids 2 weeks on campus so they could get around it and meet the people that are in their actual grade.
I moved to this new school because when I graduate high school, I will also have an associate's degree, so finishing college won't be as long. I also moved because I was feeling like a third wheel. (which is stupid since the situation is now worse)
That idea actually sounds pretty. o_o Like I never thought of something like that and I even went on google and that didn't show up either...but seriously. I will definitely try it. About the clubs, I haven't had much time to ask about them yet, but I hope I can find something I'm interested in.
*sighs* Thank you so much for listening and for taking your time to reply and help me out. It's really nice and considerate of you! *hugs* I will keep that in mind. :)
If that's the case, I kind of just wanted to share my thoughts on your situation (even if you're younger, it should still apply).
Being 4 years out of college myself, and now acting as an "adult" in the real world, I can definitely relate to your feelings desperation that come off in this post.
Of course, the situations are different, but also similar. Even though it was some time ago, I still remember what that time was like! ;P
What was the reason you moved to a new school, if you don't mind me asking? If you made that decision, I think maybe the best thing for you to do it to make the best of your decision! If not, well... you're here now, and there's really not a reason to hold back! :D
I think that the most important part of finding new friends is... really it sounds silly... but act like you are friends with them already. I know at work I often feel out of place and completely unqualified, but if you act like you own the place... people tend to believe it.
Are there clubs or extra curricular activities you can take part in? In college I met many good friends through clubs, because everyone is there for the same reason (often a love of whatever is going on in the club), so some of that rapport is already there for you.
As far as regretting the loss of friends... it's understandable that you might long for the connections you had in the past. But dwelling on them is definitely not a productive activity! You have your whole life in front of you, I tend to live by the motto "no regrets" things are as they are meant to be, and your attitude will create your future.
I'm sorry you're going through a tough time, and even though I don't comment much on your posts, I do read them! So if you ever need anyone to vent to, I'm just a PM away!
Take care
xoxo
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I moved to this new school because when I graduate high school, I will also have an associate's degree, so finishing college won't be as long. I also moved because I was feeling like a third wheel. (which is stupid since the situation is now worse)
That idea actually sounds pretty. o_o Like I never thought of something like that and I even went on google and that didn't show up either...but seriously. I will definitely try it. About the clubs, I haven't had much time to ask about them yet, but I hope I can find something I'm interested in.
*sighs* Thank you so much for listening and for taking your time to reply and help me out. It's really nice and considerate of you! *hugs* I will keep that in mind. :)
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