The Vacation is Over (in more ways than one)
I've been doing a large amount of relief veterinary work out of town from San Diego. Necessarily I lose touch with the details of what's happening at home when I'm only there for one Sunday a week. That day Martha and I tend to work on our relationship more than anything else. Keeping in my mind that she's juggling a lot of things right now (purchasing an investment property, keeping Andrew on the straight and narrow, dealing with overload at work plus a speculative job that may pay big dividends in time) is a necessary perspective when I come home to a house in disorder. When I'm in town de-cluttering and cleaning are my tasks as a dirty disorganized house drives me to distraction.
After this weekend my calendar is comparatively clear until the end of the year. It's time to re-engage with all the minutiae of home and start pulling my weight besides that of just providing income.
Task number one is preparing number three stepson an exit strategy from our home to living on his own. Martha has been doing most of this as most of the time I just want to slap him silly. There's something about entitlement, laziness, and bad attitude that rub me the wrong way. Anyone else from my generation living somewhere rent-free would be looking for things to do to help out. Martha and I are agreed that ready or not, he has to move out by the end of the year.
My second task is getting number one son over his computer addiction. Last weekend I helped him re-install XP on his laptop to fix the broken 3-D video drivers. Without those his games are too slow to play. Today his manager called me to say that he hasn't called and hasn't shown up for work in two days. Martha drove up to see what was going on and found him asleep in a pigsty of a room, unwashed, uncombed, and non-talkative. My guess is that he's been reading fan fiction and play games to all hours of the morning, then being too beat to go to work. Tomorrow I'm going to take his computer away, get him cleaned up, and over to his workplace. If he's lucky he can explain his addiction, how he's taking steps to deal with it, and perhaps - just maybe - keep his job. At the moment he's considered to have abandoned his job which screws him in three different ways: 1) No unemployment benefits, 2) No references, 3) Out of work in a bad economy.
These are both 22-yo males that should be doing better than this. *sigh*
After this weekend my calendar is comparatively clear until the end of the year. It's time to re-engage with all the minutiae of home and start pulling my weight besides that of just providing income.
Task number one is preparing number three stepson an exit strategy from our home to living on his own. Martha has been doing most of this as most of the time I just want to slap him silly. There's something about entitlement, laziness, and bad attitude that rub me the wrong way. Anyone else from my generation living somewhere rent-free would be looking for things to do to help out. Martha and I are agreed that ready or not, he has to move out by the end of the year.
My second task is getting number one son over his computer addiction. Last weekend I helped him re-install XP on his laptop to fix the broken 3-D video drivers. Without those his games are too slow to play. Today his manager called me to say that he hasn't called and hasn't shown up for work in two days. Martha drove up to see what was going on and found him asleep in a pigsty of a room, unwashed, uncombed, and non-talkative. My guess is that he's been reading fan fiction and play games to all hours of the morning, then being too beat to go to work. Tomorrow I'm going to take his computer away, get him cleaned up, and over to his workplace. If he's lucky he can explain his addiction, how he's taking steps to deal with it, and perhaps - just maybe - keep his job. At the moment he's considered to have abandoned his job which screws him in three different ways: 1) No unemployment benefits, 2) No references, 3) Out of work in a bad economy.
These are both 22-yo males that should be doing better than this. *sigh*