5 Words Meme
These five came from essaying.
Parenting. It is much more comfortable around here now that it has been in the previous 20 years. I think parenting our two guys at (almost) 19 and 21 is groovy. I like that they are independent and also they want input from us as parents. Essentially, Dan moves out on Friday. (Technically he's joining us on a vacation and the day after we return he leaves for his new school. Ian is so much easier to live with now as compared to a a few years ago. I am still amazed at how much he has grown up. And I like both my guys now as well as love them!
Monogamy. The part that's tricky here is at core I think I am monogamous and Andrew isn't. It's a difficult dance to pull off. (This is not news to the short list of people who still read my livejournal.)
So; why am I monogamous? I suppose it is at odds with identifying as bisexual. The fact is sex and/or kink mean less to me than it used to. I think I am finally menopausal and I'd guess that is one element. There are sexual activities I miss. But overall, poly is too uncomfortable for me. I guess I wish Andrew felt that way, but he doesn't.
Midlife. Neutral: Routines. Predictability.
Pluses: Comfort. Slower pace. Knowing myself pretty well. Financial security.
Negatives: Slower healing. Aches and pins. Boredom (which is something I can change, I know.)
Gender. Not something I think about much. I identify as fairly traditionally 'female' but then there's the carpenter thing and the power tools thing? Never shake it up much either. Never been interested in gender bending. I believe people should be free to act on whatever makes them comfortable gender wise. But I sheepishly admit when push comes to shove, I am pretty middle class, white bread about gender roles.
San Francisco. Between the economy producing a crime wave and many of my friends having moved, it's not what it used to be for me. And it's summer and foggy. So like every summer, I joke that I'm ready to move. But really, I do love it here. When we travel I am always ready to come back home. I love the fact that Dan's high school German teacher was Frau Ah-Ming Cho. I love the food, the hills, the pretty Victorians, the diversity. That it's the first city in the country to introduce curbside kitchen compost pick up!
Parenting. It is much more comfortable around here now that it has been in the previous 20 years. I think parenting our two guys at (almost) 19 and 21 is groovy. I like that they are independent and also they want input from us as parents. Essentially, Dan moves out on Friday. (Technically he's joining us on a vacation and the day after we return he leaves for his new school. Ian is so much easier to live with now as compared to a a few years ago. I am still amazed at how much he has grown up. And I like both my guys now as well as love them!
Monogamy. The part that's tricky here is at core I think I am monogamous and Andrew isn't. It's a difficult dance to pull off. (This is not news to the short list of people who still read my livejournal.)
So; why am I monogamous? I suppose it is at odds with identifying as bisexual. The fact is sex and/or kink mean less to me than it used to. I think I am finally menopausal and I'd guess that is one element. There are sexual activities I miss. But overall, poly is too uncomfortable for me. I guess I wish Andrew felt that way, but he doesn't.
Midlife. Neutral: Routines. Predictability.
Pluses: Comfort. Slower pace. Knowing myself pretty well. Financial security.
Negatives: Slower healing. Aches and pins. Boredom (which is something I can change, I know.)
Gender. Not something I think about much. I identify as fairly traditionally 'female' but then there's the carpenter thing and the power tools thing? Never shake it up much either. Never been interested in gender bending. I believe people should be free to act on whatever makes them comfortable gender wise. But I sheepishly admit when push comes to shove, I am pretty middle class, white bread about gender roles.
San Francisco. Between the economy producing a crime wave and many of my friends having moved, it's not what it used to be for me. And it's summer and foggy. So like every summer, I joke that I'm ready to move. But really, I do love it here. When we travel I am always ready to come back home. I love the fact that Dan's high school German teacher was Frau Ah-Ming Cho. I love the food, the hills, the pretty Victorians, the diversity. That it's the first city in the country to introduce curbside kitchen compost pick up!