heart broken issue
I was being a good listener (or nosey I wasn't sure...i think it's a thin line between those two - LOL) and someone talked about the "break up etiquette". Basically she was upset that "HE" has already moved on, so quick that she doubted what they used to have were real.
Humph, i didnt say much to her as i decided not to put any foot in my mouth anymore (apparantly my advice usually backfires me) so i just told her things happened and she shouldnt care much about his love life since she should care about her own more. Anyway, i came to think...that happened to everyone isn't it? It's the cliche "been there, done that". I always disagree when people say time doesnt help them healing their broken hearts. That is so not true! Time does heal it on the matter that u want to be heal! Got another friends who still fuming about break-up last year, she couldnt forget about him and keep reading old emails/chat logs. Of course, doing that is only hurting herself. She refuses to be heal and move on. I was like that, we all were like that until we see the light at the end of the tunnel so we decide to get the hell out of that misery. Sometimes I regret not keeping those emails me and my ex used to exchange (I deleted all since it's a way to move on according to "It's call break-up because it's broken" book) because that was such a beautiful thing I used to have and treasure, but then again, it was only a beautiful memory and the fact that he no longer belongs to me...why should i keep that? Sometimes I regret not be able to stay friends with EXs as some people do, but what to do? we no longer belong in each other's life, he has no place for me and i have no place for his. we dun fit in so rather keep only fond memory in my head.
I remember being in the position of the first friend (he moved on first blah blah), the difference between my story and hers is that I didn't love him, it was he who head-over-heels about me and to know he moved faster than me could be seen a challenge to competition. Fortunately, being me, I wasn't desperated so I just played along with highschool rhythm. When highschool ended, the competition finished and look at the scoreboard...nobody wins (my then best friend didnt like him -- yes, he dared enough to challenge me by asking my bf out -- and i stayed single and genius the rest of the years *LOL*). So I did learn my lesson from his mistake. I'm sure by now he will be in fabulous relationship, the one that he doesn't have to compete with anyone to earn it
Humph, i didnt say much to her as i decided not to put any foot in my mouth anymore (apparantly my advice usually backfires me) so i just told her things happened and she shouldnt care much about his love life since she should care about her own more. Anyway, i came to think...that happened to everyone isn't it? It's the cliche "been there, done that". I always disagree when people say time doesnt help them healing their broken hearts. That is so not true! Time does heal it on the matter that u want to be heal! Got another friends who still fuming about break-up last year, she couldnt forget about him and keep reading old emails/chat logs. Of course, doing that is only hurting herself. She refuses to be heal and move on. I was like that, we all were like that until we see the light at the end of the tunnel so we decide to get the hell out of that misery. Sometimes I regret not keeping those emails me and my ex used to exchange (I deleted all since it's a way to move on according to "It's call break-up because it's broken" book) because that was such a beautiful thing I used to have and treasure, but then again, it was only a beautiful memory and the fact that he no longer belongs to me...why should i keep that? Sometimes I regret not be able to stay friends with EXs as some people do, but what to do? we no longer belong in each other's life, he has no place for me and i have no place for his. we dun fit in so rather keep only fond memory in my head.
I remember being in the position of the first friend (he moved on first blah blah), the difference between my story and hers is that I didn't love him, it was he who head-over-heels about me and to know he moved faster than me could be seen a challenge to competition. Fortunately, being me, I wasn't desperated so I just played along with highschool rhythm. When highschool ended, the competition finished and look at the scoreboard...nobody wins (my then best friend didnt like him -- yes, he dared enough to challenge me by asking my bf out -- and i stayed single and genius the rest of the years *LOL*). So I did learn my lesson from his mistake. I'm sure by now he will be in fabulous relationship, the one that he doesn't have to compete with anyone to earn it