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I've been doing some thinking (as a result of some research for school as well as some stuff I've been reading on my own) about feminist guilt. Guilty pleasures, but also guilt about our fears and weaknesses. I'm sure there are other kinds of guilt that people experience that are similar but not just about feminism--other types of political guilt

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Sometimes when I consider the hypothetical possibility of having a baby I get scared thinking about my body changing and what my belly would look like afterwards and stuff. And then I feel guilty about that, because what kind of thing is that to worry about compared to whether I might want to start a family someday? It's not like I'd give up having kids to maintain my girlish (ha!) figure, but I feel bad just for having the thought. So I can definitely relate. I think more people should talk about what happens to your body after pregnancy. It seems like a lot of women think their post-pregnancy body is really weird and unusual when it's really not. It's this thing you never hear about, when it should be a normal thing people can be comfortable with. One thing that really freaks me out lately is I keep seeing ads for this cosmetic surgery clinic talking about the "mommy makeover" which I know is just code for "post-pregnancy tummy-tuck" (and possibly "post-breastfeeding boob job"). That really gives me the willies.

It seems like this kind of thing is bound to be a challenge. You definitely shouldn't beat yourself up for having insecurities--that's inevitable. And for what it's worth, I think you're a super cutie.