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so i've been hanging out with the starbucks crew lately. probably the wildest weekend i've had in a while. while we were out this weekend, my co-worker Amy said how she planned on BBQing and getting drunk before our 9:45 PM meeting on Labor Day. so i decided to invite everyone to my house for Labor Day, and most of the people i invited showed up. so we BBQed, drank, went to the bar for a bit, then went to our work meeting to which we showed up 3 minutes late to, piled into 2 cars. our manager was not pleased, to say the least. i am actually dreading repremanding when i show up at work next. and it didn't help that Amy also called in "sick" over the weekend and made our manager drive home from camping at 2 am to open the store at 4:15 am. during the meeting we were informed of a new rule requiring that any sick "call outs" Fri-Sun to have a doctor's note. hahah. she can't actually enforce that, but she just wanted to threaten us.
joel's been weird about me hanging out with all the guys i work with, so he's been coming over every night, too, late at night, and that's been kinda nice. and as pathetic as it sounds, we made a pact not to argue for a week about anything, because the last couple of weeks/months have been ridiculous. he knows the things that piss me off, and i just can't handle it when he makes the same mistake he's made time and time again.... like not calling me back when i get off work at night, or making plans to go eat and then he eats 2 hours before we meet up, and he's not hungry and i'm starving, or not getting up and calling me when we have plans to go do something because he was too drunk the night before, and then him being a dismissive jerk (in my eyes, when i am incredibly pissed off) when i call him out on any of the above, which is what perpetuates the problem into a big argument. if he just said, "i'm sorry, i know it upsets you when i do that, and i will really try not to do it again" it would help calm me down. so what i told him when i said, "we're not arguing for a week" is that we both have to try to be super nice, hold our tongue, and try not to escalate anything that really is petty (primarily me) and try not to do something that knowingly might make the other mad (primarily him). and the last few days have been really awesome. it's like when we first started dating, because we enjoy each other's company so much more. we've gotten maybe a combined 8 hours of sleep the last two nights because we just stay up talking, or wake up early and snuggle and talk. and i had to hold my tongue tonight already. i called him when i got off around 6:30, left him a message for him to call me back so i could find out about his day, and by 8:30 he hadn't called me back, but since we have the same cell phone plan, i can stalkerishly see that he checked his voicemail before 7:00, and had called a friend and received a phone call from a friend after checking his voicemail, and he had yet to call me back. so i called, he answered, he told me about what i was calling to hear about (a potential new housing arrangement) and i told him my bummer news that i got tonight. then i said, "so were you planning on calling me back tonight?" and he goes, "yeah" and i go, "oh, really, when?" and he goes, "when i remembered to." normally i would have made more of a deal out of it, saying something like "oh, yeah, like every other time you think you'll call me back but never do? why is it so hard to just call me back before you go meet up with your friends, or tell them you need to call me back but will make it quick?" and i know this from experience because we have had this argument many times, and i remember this escalating to a major argument for the first time last summer, because he finally had a cell phone, no excuse to not call me back, and especially since i could check the phone records. 30% of the time when i call him when i get off work, i don't hear from him, either because he doesn't take the time to call me before he goes to work, or he doesn't take the time to step away from his friends and call me, or to call me before he meets up with them. and 20% of the time when he doesnt call back, i let it go, with maybe just a simple snide remark, and 10% of those times, i chew him out, but that's usually only if i have to call him several times in one night, and several times the next day before i get ahold of him.
so, my bummer news is that nick and sara, the couple who lives with me, are moving out because they don't want to live together anymore for the sake of their relationship (joel and i in 2 years? i hope not!), and now i have to find another couple who wants to pay a decent buttload for that room, or a single person who wants to pay a ginormous buttload for that room ($370 each for a couple, or $740 for a single person). realistically, joel and i could move up there, and we could easily find a single person to take over my room downstairs, but there is no way i could convince him to move in with me right now. the space upstairs is awesome, it's got a big bedroom, a half bath, and a kind of seperate "living space/large hallway" outside of the actual bedroom. it would be a perfect spot for him to have a drawing table, and for me to have a desk and shit for teaching, and even an extra bed for a friend of his to crash on now and then (that's what my roommates have now, for out of town guests), so we wouldn't have to feel like we are in each other's space in our bedroom. and i think if we cleaned out a bunch of shit in the basement, joel could put his screen printing equipment down there, although it would be a tight fit.
anyway, i am exhausted, and am going to bed.
joel's been weird about me hanging out with all the guys i work with, so he's been coming over every night, too, late at night, and that's been kinda nice. and as pathetic as it sounds, we made a pact not to argue for a week about anything, because the last couple of weeks/months have been ridiculous. he knows the things that piss me off, and i just can't handle it when he makes the same mistake he's made time and time again.... like not calling me back when i get off work at night, or making plans to go eat and then he eats 2 hours before we meet up, and he's not hungry and i'm starving, or not getting up and calling me when we have plans to go do something because he was too drunk the night before, and then him being a dismissive jerk (in my eyes, when i am incredibly pissed off) when i call him out on any of the above, which is what perpetuates the problem into a big argument. if he just said, "i'm sorry, i know it upsets you when i do that, and i will really try not to do it again" it would help calm me down. so what i told him when i said, "we're not arguing for a week" is that we both have to try to be super nice, hold our tongue, and try not to escalate anything that really is petty (primarily me) and try not to do something that knowingly might make the other mad (primarily him). and the last few days have been really awesome. it's like when we first started dating, because we enjoy each other's company so much more. we've gotten maybe a combined 8 hours of sleep the last two nights because we just stay up talking, or wake up early and snuggle and talk. and i had to hold my tongue tonight already. i called him when i got off around 6:30, left him a message for him to call me back so i could find out about his day, and by 8:30 he hadn't called me back, but since we have the same cell phone plan, i can stalkerishly see that he checked his voicemail before 7:00, and had called a friend and received a phone call from a friend after checking his voicemail, and he had yet to call me back. so i called, he answered, he told me about what i was calling to hear about (a potential new housing arrangement) and i told him my bummer news that i got tonight. then i said, "so were you planning on calling me back tonight?" and he goes, "yeah" and i go, "oh, really, when?" and he goes, "when i remembered to." normally i would have made more of a deal out of it, saying something like "oh, yeah, like every other time you think you'll call me back but never do? why is it so hard to just call me back before you go meet up with your friends, or tell them you need to call me back but will make it quick?" and i know this from experience because we have had this argument many times, and i remember this escalating to a major argument for the first time last summer, because he finally had a cell phone, no excuse to not call me back, and especially since i could check the phone records. 30% of the time when i call him when i get off work, i don't hear from him, either because he doesn't take the time to call me before he goes to work, or he doesn't take the time to step away from his friends and call me, or to call me before he meets up with them. and 20% of the time when he doesnt call back, i let it go, with maybe just a simple snide remark, and 10% of those times, i chew him out, but that's usually only if i have to call him several times in one night, and several times the next day before i get ahold of him.
so, my bummer news is that nick and sara, the couple who lives with me, are moving out because they don't want to live together anymore for the sake of their relationship (joel and i in 2 years? i hope not!), and now i have to find another couple who wants to pay a decent buttload for that room, or a single person who wants to pay a ginormous buttload for that room ($370 each for a couple, or $740 for a single person). realistically, joel and i could move up there, and we could easily find a single person to take over my room downstairs, but there is no way i could convince him to move in with me right now. the space upstairs is awesome, it's got a big bedroom, a half bath, and a kind of seperate "living space/large hallway" outside of the actual bedroom. it would be a perfect spot for him to have a drawing table, and for me to have a desk and shit for teaching, and even an extra bed for a friend of his to crash on now and then (that's what my roommates have now, for out of town guests), so we wouldn't have to feel like we are in each other's space in our bedroom. and i think if we cleaned out a bunch of shit in the basement, joel could put his screen printing equipment down there, although it would be a tight fit.
anyway, i am exhausted, and am going to bed.