how to be stealth
I'm a fairly open person. I am not good at lying, at all. We moved to WI from Brooklyn about a year ago. In Brooklyn, everyone knew J was FtM. He transitioned while we were there. Now, we are stealth at our jobs. Its usually not that big a deal. But, I talk about things and just make them not trans related.
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I STRONGLY suggest you talk to your partner about this, let him know what you said, exactly, and ask how he feels about it. Most people I know who go stealth do so for safety reasons, if he doesn't feel safe with you telling people anything they ask for then, well, you have to ask yourself if it is safe for you to say anything about it at all.
you need to take his safety into account. As partners, we do have a lot to deal with in terms of stealth, disclosure and what not... but if he doesn't feel safe with people knowing then you must learn to tell people to back off. While not totally unheard of, partners rarely suffer physical violence... but chances are FAR higher that your partner will be the one that gets hurt if you tell the wrong person something that gets them thinking.
ask yourself this... if they were asking him intimate details about your medical history, would you want him to answer every question no matter how personal?
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