Monogamy
I will preface this by saying Tim the clinician isn't meaning to judge but that doesn't exempt me from having my own points of view. Is this really that difficult for people? I seem to remember a time when having open relationships or playing on the side was taboo. Has it just been that people were lying and now there's more honesty? Maybe people just have interests that are changing with the times. I feel like I've walked into a twilight zone where wanting to be desirable to your potential partner but not sharing your sexuality with other people is seen as disgusting and frankly it pisses me off. This idea of everyone being entitled to having whatever they want whenever they want is going to destroy my generation. Now I'm not saying people should needlessly self-sacrifice but since when has having a little self-restraint and honor killed anyone? Perhaps it's because my background is more conservative than my peers' or because I still hold on to my Christian values but I really think it's rather irresponsible and sickening to expect me to conform to your way of living just because you have an idea of what I should be like. I pride myself on being an authentic person. I may be shy at first but people know exactly what they're getting when they deal with me and I make it clear from the beginning that promiscuity and cheap thrills are not things I choose to indulge. I do have friends that regard such activity as fun and they are allowed to do whatever they want with their bodies and lives as that's a privelege you earn by being independent.
I guess this anger is masked pain. I'm still sensitive to the internal world of some people and I don't sense that this life is really fulfilling but is rather a way of distracting themselves from some troubling thoughts stirring underneath the surface. Although my ranting did get a little vicious I can be sure that I won't stop being friends with people just because their views are different than mine so long as they respect my choice not to engage in free love sytle sexuality. On the other hand, when I see the way their faces light up, the way their energy settles and the way they surrender to comfort and security when I offer them a loving friendship I can't help but want to stay friends with them. The true friends in my life can live their life and still appreciate me for disagreeing with their lifestyle but not dictating how they should live. I would guess in the end, love really is patient and kind whether it be brotherly or romantic.
I guess this anger is masked pain. I'm still sensitive to the internal world of some people and I don't sense that this life is really fulfilling but is rather a way of distracting themselves from some troubling thoughts stirring underneath the surface. Although my ranting did get a little vicious I can be sure that I won't stop being friends with people just because their views are different than mine so long as they respect my choice not to engage in free love sytle sexuality. On the other hand, when I see the way their faces light up, the way their energy settles and the way they surrender to comfort and security when I offer them a loving friendship I can't help but want to stay friends with them. The true friends in my life can live their life and still appreciate me for disagreeing with their lifestyle but not dictating how they should live. I would guess in the end, love really is patient and kind whether it be brotherly or romantic.