Since I have only one side of the story I can't know exactly what's going on.. But you may want to try talking to her. Do you have assigned chores? Does she have much homework to accomplish? Perhaps what you should do is call a meeting between you and your siblings and rally together to decide who will do what chores, and when their deadlines will be... and during this processes I think it's important to really encourage open (and kind) communication between you all.. So if someone feels like they need help, or a bit more time to accomplish their tasks they can ask for it without feeling like they will be ridiculed.
It may just be that she had intended to do it later after she had some downtime for herself.. Or it may just be that she has a difficult time finding the motivation to get up and do it right away. Find a nice neutral way to help encourage her though, and she may be able to find the motivation to get up and go. Perhaps saying something like "Are you super busy right now? Would you like my help with these chores?".
A few things could be going on. She could be lazy and/or not a "neat" person. My room was a mess for years and I saw no problem with it - that was just me. She could be feeling like you are making her look bad by doing all of the cleaning (because then she is more often labeled as lazy and not helping her mom). She could also find your cleaning distracting. She could be trying to concentrate on homework or focus on her reading/computer-time/etc. to distract her from the stress of whatever is going on with your mom. She could also be a tad bratty, this isn't uncommon with teenagers. Maybe she thinks that only her parents have any business bossing her around and because you are so responsible and hardworking this makes YOU feel like you DO have a right to tell her what to do and how to do it. I could easily see this causing a conflict because maybe she thinks she did things just fine or doesn't see the big deal but EITHER WAY does not want to be bossed around by her older sister (some teens don't even like being told to do by their
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It may just be that she had intended to do it later after she had some downtime for herself.. Or it may just be that she has a difficult time finding the motivation to get up and do it right away. Find a nice neutral way to help encourage her though, and she may be able to find the motivation to get up and go. Perhaps saying something like "Are you super busy right now? Would you like my help with these chores?".
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