SOUL MATES
So sometimes I get to thinking about the most random pointless crap that seems to keep building and building and makes me think even more and then ends up being some deep psychological thought process and then I just get worried, because that is just plain weird. Instead of keeping it kept cooped up in my deranged little mind I thought I might spill some of it out here, cuz what are our lovely online journals for anyways, if not for writing ones strange thoughts down?
My most recent contemplation was on ‘Soul Mates.’ I have never been one to truly believe either way. Is there really that one special someone out there for each of us? Is there no one for any of us, do we just pretend to find the love of our lives? Can we have more than one soul mate?
You know? How can anyone say that any of those are for certain? You see everyday people who are what it seems, so wrong for each other, and then those who seem so right. Who are we to judge though? What if those people we look at and see unfit are really ‘Soul Mates.’
If you were to go with any of my above questions you would get stuck with even deeper scrutiny. For instance my first ponder; Is there really that one special someone out there for each of us? Personally I just know that my grandparents were born to be together, they are absolutely wonderful people and their wonderfulness is just made greater when they are together. They are old and silly and still in so much love, they are my main reason for still considering this whole aspect on love/soul mates. I could not see them being with anyone else, it just would not be right. On the other hand there are those I see who are married or who have been together for a long time that seem so incredibly unsuited for one another. When I see people like that it makes me wonder. Are they staying together because it is just easier? (I definitely think that is the case with many relationships.) Or are they together because despite what it looks like they are good together? Or is it all just a lie?
My second ponder; Is there no one for any of us, do we just pretend? How can you be certain? How can you ever tell that that one person you love so much loves you in return the same? Or vise versa. What if what you think is true love is just another person expressing how much you mean to them and then you falsely believing that you love them back that much? Can you actually be fooled into believing that you truly love someone? If so then does it discredit the whole love concept? Or does it not even exist?! If your mind and your heart can be so absolutely lost in pretend love, does it make it real? Is it all just a pretend game to make us happy? Is the outlook on ‘Soul Mates’ and even ‘Love’ just expressions made up by hallmark to seem so powerfully real, but really aren’t?
On my final silly uncertainty; Can we have more than one soul mate? This one worries me. I guess all of these questions worry me. If you strive to find that one, or two or three, how do you ever really know who you should decide to be happy with? Why is it ever worth being in a relationship unless you are so completely certain?
Fate and Soul Mates would definitely have to do with the other… assuming you believed in either one. Fate, pre-determined destiny. So how far does that go? Can fate just be like a guideline as to what happens in your life and then you go and take a running leap and either go along with what fate had planned or you do something else and… what would that something else be? Would you have screwed up your very own destiny or would there have been a new one already created? OR is what you do in your life all of what fate had in store? I know sometimes I have felt that I have met someone I was supposed to meet, it just seemed right at the time or there was just that special click with that person that made me like him or her immediately. Now does that mean anything? Does it still mean something when I say that after meeting that someone and liking them and everything going along all of a sudden something goes wrong and you do not ever see that person ever again. Was that fate? Or did you screw up fate? What do you do? How do you ever know what to do? There are so many people and so many things that are bound to happen with whomever you meet. How are you to know what friendships to hold on to, or potential people to be in love with or vise versa how are you to know when you should not be in a relationship? (yes, yes assuming there is no verbal, physical abuse and angry angerfullness.)
Gahhhh my mind is hurting. My heart and head are both sore and upset with me. I feel like I could cry or go to math homework, I guess it is the whole emotional, deep thinking. Perhaps I shall do both?
Sooo yes, I think that concludes my strange ramble for the time being. PLEASE do not think I am some infatuated, super depressed, emo bitch with nothing better to do then whine about love, cuz I AM NOT. I am insanely happy with my life…. for the most part, I am just a bit skeptical with some things. Just a lot of questions with as of yet… no answers.
No worries.
"We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself."
-Lloyd Alexander
Okay… I agree…..
BUT…. "When we have arrived at the question, the answer is already near."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
MR. EMERSON PLEASE ENLIGHTEN ME!!!?
My most recent contemplation was on ‘Soul Mates.’ I have never been one to truly believe either way. Is there really that one special someone out there for each of us? Is there no one for any of us, do we just pretend to find the love of our lives? Can we have more than one soul mate?
You know? How can anyone say that any of those are for certain? You see everyday people who are what it seems, so wrong for each other, and then those who seem so right. Who are we to judge though? What if those people we look at and see unfit are really ‘Soul Mates.’
If you were to go with any of my above questions you would get stuck with even deeper scrutiny. For instance my first ponder; Is there really that one special someone out there for each of us? Personally I just know that my grandparents were born to be together, they are absolutely wonderful people and their wonderfulness is just made greater when they are together. They are old and silly and still in so much love, they are my main reason for still considering this whole aspect on love/soul mates. I could not see them being with anyone else, it just would not be right. On the other hand there are those I see who are married or who have been together for a long time that seem so incredibly unsuited for one another. When I see people like that it makes me wonder. Are they staying together because it is just easier? (I definitely think that is the case with many relationships.) Or are they together because despite what it looks like they are good together? Or is it all just a lie?
My second ponder; Is there no one for any of us, do we just pretend? How can you be certain? How can you ever tell that that one person you love so much loves you in return the same? Or vise versa. What if what you think is true love is just another person expressing how much you mean to them and then you falsely believing that you love them back that much? Can you actually be fooled into believing that you truly love someone? If so then does it discredit the whole love concept? Or does it not even exist?! If your mind and your heart can be so absolutely lost in pretend love, does it make it real? Is it all just a pretend game to make us happy? Is the outlook on ‘Soul Mates’ and even ‘Love’ just expressions made up by hallmark to seem so powerfully real, but really aren’t?
On my final silly uncertainty; Can we have more than one soul mate? This one worries me. I guess all of these questions worry me. If you strive to find that one, or two or three, how do you ever really know who you should decide to be happy with? Why is it ever worth being in a relationship unless you are so completely certain?
Fate and Soul Mates would definitely have to do with the other… assuming you believed in either one. Fate, pre-determined destiny. So how far does that go? Can fate just be like a guideline as to what happens in your life and then you go and take a running leap and either go along with what fate had planned or you do something else and… what would that something else be? Would you have screwed up your very own destiny or would there have been a new one already created? OR is what you do in your life all of what fate had in store? I know sometimes I have felt that I have met someone I was supposed to meet, it just seemed right at the time or there was just that special click with that person that made me like him or her immediately. Now does that mean anything? Does it still mean something when I say that after meeting that someone and liking them and everything going along all of a sudden something goes wrong and you do not ever see that person ever again. Was that fate? Or did you screw up fate? What do you do? How do you ever know what to do? There are so many people and so many things that are bound to happen with whomever you meet. How are you to know what friendships to hold on to, or potential people to be in love with or vise versa how are you to know when you should not be in a relationship? (yes, yes assuming there is no verbal, physical abuse and angry angerfullness.)
Gahhhh my mind is hurting. My heart and head are both sore and upset with me. I feel like I could cry or go to math homework, I guess it is the whole emotional, deep thinking. Perhaps I shall do both?
Sooo yes, I think that concludes my strange ramble for the time being. PLEASE do not think I am some infatuated, super depressed, emo bitch with nothing better to do then whine about love, cuz I AM NOT. I am insanely happy with my life…. for the most part, I am just a bit skeptical with some things. Just a lot of questions with as of yet… no answers.
No worries.
"We learn more by looking for the answer to a question and not finding it than we do from learning the answer itself."
-Lloyd Alexander
Okay… I agree…..
BUT…. "When we have arrived at the question, the answer is already near."
-Ralph Waldo Emerson
MR. EMERSON PLEASE ENLIGHTEN ME!!!?