It feels really good to be appreciated
Today Ben told me he really appreciates that i am fairly good about money, that i am diligent about paying back when i borrow.
It felt good, having him acknowledge me for that. It feels good to know that i am appreciated and not taken for granted.
I also have to admit is has been hard in the past...watching some of our friends (now ex-friends) take advantage of him financially, all the while i was paying Ben pack promptly. Not that i didn't want to pay him back or anything, just that it still felt kind of unfair that i could be so good about it while they could just slack, with no intention of ever paying him back, even though they said that they would (but obviously didn't mean it). But, after we cut them off and have cut our losses, it is good to know that my positive actions have a positive effect.
Our relationship feels good to me, and really pretty stable. It is nice to know that neither of us want to take advantage of each other financially, but if we need it, the support is there. We both care so much about each other, enough to make sure the other is taken care of. Ben and I have both lent the other money in times of need, and while part of me would like to have a better job and never have Ben have to worry about my finances, it is still nice knowing he can help me out sometimes and vice versa.
It felt good, having him acknowledge me for that. It feels good to know that i am appreciated and not taken for granted.
I also have to admit is has been hard in the past...watching some of our friends (now ex-friends) take advantage of him financially, all the while i was paying Ben pack promptly. Not that i didn't want to pay him back or anything, just that it still felt kind of unfair that i could be so good about it while they could just slack, with no intention of ever paying him back, even though they said that they would (but obviously didn't mean it). But, after we cut them off and have cut our losses, it is good to know that my positive actions have a positive effect.
Our relationship feels good to me, and really pretty stable. It is nice to know that neither of us want to take advantage of each other financially, but if we need it, the support is there. We both care so much about each other, enough to make sure the other is taken care of. Ben and I have both lent the other money in times of need, and while part of me would like to have a better job and never have Ben have to worry about my finances, it is still nice knowing he can help me out sometimes and vice versa.