ARGH!! Other people just bug me!!!
Being pregnant is damn hard work; you know that?! No? Well, it is, I assure you. Get a pet it's easier. Oh, that probably came off as I'm in a bad mood and so done with being pregnant, didn't it? It did? Good. That's how I feel today! It's just one of those days, ya know? Halloween is tomorrow, and I have this friend who's never had any children, and she's been going on and on the past few days about Halloween and what I'm going to dress up my 3y/o and 21mth old as this year (although, she seems to forget that my daughter is not my only child). Well, me and my daughter are having some mommy and me time after I get off work today and we're gonna go out to dinner and then go to the costume shop to see what we can come up with for her to wear to the party at school. She's very psyched about the party, and my son is going with the flow of it all. Now, herein lies my frustration with...well, everything and nothing.
Is it really such a horrible thing if I don't take my 3 y/o trick-or-treating? Is it horrible that I'm willing to get her a costume to attend something she really wants to do and not make her go trick-or-treating if she really doesn't want to go? Is it going to scar her or her brother for life if I don't take them around the neighboorhood in a costume that took weeks to prepare to get a bucket full of candy that neither of them seem that interested in? Is there something wrong with my daughter if she doesn't try to find a way to get candy at every single meal and every other opportunity? Is it wrong of me to not force my child to do something so trivial if she doesn't want to do it, but be fine with taking her if she really wants to go? Maybe it's because I wasn't ever a huge fan of trick-or-treating myself as a child. I was the kind of kid that always preffered halloween parties as opposed to trick-or-treating. It seems like my daughter is the same way. Is she going to grow up deprived because she didn't trick-or-treat when she was 3, unless she really wanted to? What's wrong with letting her letting her do what she feels like is fun on a fun holiday and not doing what other kids do, if she genuinely doesn't like it?! I just don't get it. She likes dressing up for Halloween parties and eating what's at the party and playing with her friends. So, why not just let her have fun on a fun holiday in a way she actually enjoys?! I don't get it.
Part of this is because of the Melamine scare too. I don't want miss some candy in her loot that might contain it. However, if she does want to go, I'll take her, and both her parents will go through her candy to make sure there's nothing bad in there. But, my friend just acts like it's the worst thing in the world not to take a child trick-or-treating and spend days and days on a costume for them! Isn't a halloween party at school, and maybe going to the pumpkin patch to walk the maze and play some games enough if that's what they like to do? I don't know. I guess I'm just frustrated because I don't feel like dragging a child around the neighboorhood when one or both of them doesn't want to do it, and it seems like I'm getting flack for that. Of course, part of this is frustration at my friend. She's always very big on my daughter celebrating everything just the way she did when she was 3yrs old. That just bugs me. The biggest thing that bugs me is that my child is not her, ya know?! I think she forgets that, and I have to remind her that Hannah is not her and I am not her mom. My life is different than her mom's. I don't have weeks on end to plan a halloween costume. I'm a college student. Her mom stayed at home with her and her sister all the time. It's just so frustrating someitmes, and only made more aggrivating by the fact that she has no clue what it's like to be a parent and how not all kids are the same.
Of course, some of the stuff she says is just laughable! One day she was telling me about how if she got pregnant, she wanted to have a girl, so that she could raise someone just like her. She is very ultra girly, so I asked her, "what if you have a boy?" I thought she was gonna die! She insists that her Mom had two girls and she wanted a girl and that was what she's gonna get! Again, I laughed. She's ultra girly, and says that she wants a duaghter to be the same way. So, I asked her what if her daughter is a lesbian, or transgender or just not as girly as her? Well, she obviously had never thought of that! I told her I only brought that up to prove that you don't always get exactly what you planned on. I've finally decided she's someone who just doesn't have much experience at actual life, and is still under the impression that children are born ready to be made into a carbon copy of their parents and not developed in to their own person. Still though, it's frustrating. I just tell her my parenting style is about letting my kids develop their own personalities and not imparting my opinions about certain things on to them. I figure they have enough time to develop their opinions of other people/things/situations all on their own and don't need my junk coloring those.
As you can tell, I'm just aggravated today.