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[papaya]

I'm not snarking coinin. I just realize that the mentality in her comment is part of what I think is wrong with the world

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[flyslip]

I think helping that person is the right thing to do, too. (BTW, what alternate universe did you and I grow up in? Because as much as it was the "greed is good" eighties TIMEWISE, I suspect you and I grew up in something very different, values-wise... which makes it not an Asian thing, because if you met me, you'd see my family haven't been Asian, at all, for a good 20 generations, if ever. Which is just an observation, mind you, not a statement of "OMG how good aka white am I?" I don't buy into that kind of crap.)

[papaya]

TIMEWISE, I suspect you and I grew up in something very different, values-wise

I think part of it is due to my parents' influence (as least for me - unless you know something I don't! hahaha) and partly due to my inclination to see things in black and white terms. "Good" people make certain decisions and "bad" people do the opposite.

[flyslip]

You know, I'd say the exact same about myself. I'm easing off on the black and white thing as I get older, but well, yeah. :/

[papaya]

Yeah, time and life experience are mellowing me out a bit, but my tunnel vision still comes out a lot in my rants. I'm working on it!

[chuckland]

There is never enough detail in these hypothetical questions. Was Susan Abbey's only friend that could come help? Wasn't Susan hosting a party, which carries certain obligations to all of the guests... like actually being at the party, particularly if she has other minor children in her charge? So on and so forth.

[cynica]

This is where I stand. Were I to take ^off for ~40 minutes from a young child's birthday party, it'd be Very. Bad. If it is something I can disappear from without it causing problems, maybe. But if we are talking my life right now, if I left Laurens bday party ... It'd be bad.

[merlyn4401]

Yep, that's where I am, too. It would be MORE rude to leave all my other guests at my child's party for 40 minutes to help one friend. If it were just her coming over for a playdate? I'd be all over helping her. But not in the situation presented.

[papaya]

I noticed that Susan had the party halfway between her hometown and current city, which made me assume it was because she wanted family there, which would, in my family, mean that I had relatives who I could ask to keep an eye on things while I go to get Abby, or I could ask one of them to get Abby (ack! Time away from their own children! Heaven!)

[breakableheart]

I think helping people is a good thing. I think the person who had the car trouble should help the party host by calling on someone else for help. I mean, really. The party host has {however many} people to entertain and see to - wouldn't it be rude and thoughtless to call the host and expect them to drop everything and everyone else to come to your rescue?

[papaya]

Does your answer change if Abby had tried to reach other people before calling Susan?

I do agree that she should have called somebody other than Susan, especially since she was closer to the city in which they live.

[scarbaby]

Do you think the OP is Susan, or Abby

[scarbaby]

P.S. I wouldn't add Justin Beaver as a friend. I am suspicious of anyone who can't spell quarter, and then only accounts for 3 "quaters" of what he/she/it is!

[papaya]

I was thinking about all of this: wondering how some of the answers would change if people knew whether the poster was Susan or Abby, mentally creating the math equation.

I could go for another cup of coffee.

(By the way, the people who do post the outcomes usually mention what the question is based on and how it turned out for their family.)

[stellardreams81]

Unfortunately we live in very selfish times.

[papaya]

We do. I mean, I notice I'm part of the problem, too, but I'm always surprised when I see something that strikes me as more selfish than myself.