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I am a contribution person. I need to give to others to be happy; and I can't really do anything that's just for me.
But in that contribution, I am also a significance person. I need to feel like I'm important, like I matter. I need to know that people hear what I say, that I'm not just cast aside.
I bring both of these things up because of my behavior. When I start to feel like I'm not as significant to someone, or some group, as I should be I start contributing more. I offer to help out in any form; I'll do things even though I have not been asked to do it (if I think it'll help, I go for it); I'll even go so far as to take away my contributing as a way to help whoever realize that they are becoming ungrateful, then go right back to contributing when they apologize (but that also falls under my significance bc I want people to understand exactly what I bring to the table and not forget about it).
2 of my best friends are recognition people. They need to be outwardly recognized for what they do. Both of them need to be told that they are doing so great, and they will talk to you just to prove that they are that amazing. (wow, that sounds kinda bitchy, it's not meant that way, just an observation).
But while I'm constantly feeding them, I think that they forget about me along the way. They don't mean to, and I guess that's what makes it hurt more. It just kinda happens that suddenly I'm feeling like I don't matter. I say things and they talk over me, or just start other conversations between them. And they just do it. It's not with the intention of hurting me, or making me feel less important. Usually it's jokingly, but nonetheless, it hurts.
I guess I just feel forgotten at times, but I can't outright ask to be remembered,
I don't work like that.
But in that contribution, I am also a significance person. I need to feel like I'm important, like I matter. I need to know that people hear what I say, that I'm not just cast aside.
I bring both of these things up because of my behavior. When I start to feel like I'm not as significant to someone, or some group, as I should be I start contributing more. I offer to help out in any form; I'll do things even though I have not been asked to do it (if I think it'll help, I go for it); I'll even go so far as to take away my contributing as a way to help whoever realize that they are becoming ungrateful, then go right back to contributing when they apologize (but that also falls under my significance bc I want people to understand exactly what I bring to the table and not forget about it).
2 of my best friends are recognition people. They need to be outwardly recognized for what they do. Both of them need to be told that they are doing so great, and they will talk to you just to prove that they are that amazing. (wow, that sounds kinda bitchy, it's not meant that way, just an observation).
But while I'm constantly feeding them, I think that they forget about me along the way. They don't mean to, and I guess that's what makes it hurt more. It just kinda happens that suddenly I'm feeling like I don't matter. I say things and they talk over me, or just start other conversations between them. And they just do it. It's not with the intention of hurting me, or making me feel less important. Usually it's jokingly, but nonetheless, it hurts.
I guess I just feel forgotten at times, but I can't outright ask to be remembered,
I don't work like that.