Repressed thoughts- good or bad?
All right, just for Abby i'm back on posting on LJ
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Sometimes i hate my psychology class, and other times i absolutely love it. I dislike it mainly because i'm not a big fan of the teacher, but i look past it and i can apply the material pretty well.
Repressing thoughts- just how it sounds. It's what a human naturally does, keeping thoughts and feeling "bottled down" inside and not expressing them. The question is, is that good or bad?
Why can it be good? In my case, i think it's good because it keeps the peace. There is little drama and chaos when thoughts are kept to oneself. Also, it teaches me to keep things to myself more. I don't hurt anyone and i'm still living without getting yelled at or cursed at. Not to shabby if i do say so myself.
But as always there is the other side, the not so good side. Thoughts being bad- you have to be too cautious. It is as if you don't really have anything free to say because it can hurt someone else. It can also damage one's trust if you do not your thoughts because it does not make you open.
And of course there's that nasty gray area where the "it's ok...but..." ground. I hate this. Life is so much easier with "yes" or "no." I wouldn't be surprised if people gave me comments such as "Oh mary i'm here for you, you can always talk to me." Yea buddy, but when i try sometimes you aren't available or i get the impression that you do not really care that much. Or there's the "there's always a nice way of saying it" and "somethings should be said and that should not be said." Yea thanks, i already know that. Either way, i'm bound to get myself in a sticky situation that i did not want to be in in the first place.
You hold your feeling and opinions to yourself because A) no one gives a damn, B) you cannot trust people, and/or C) someone is bound to get hurt.
Think about it. Think of all your friends. Is there one friend that you can truly tell absolutely everything too- from problems of the day to deepest, darkest secret? I can name one person. And i'm lucky to have that.
So riddle me this, which is better- holding thoughts to yourself or expressing them?
Right now, i pick repress. I'm too damn lazy to get in that many arguments. I'm very much for keeping the peace and keeping things to myself.
Until next time...
have a great day!
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Sometimes i hate my psychology class, and other times i absolutely love it. I dislike it mainly because i'm not a big fan of the teacher, but i look past it and i can apply the material pretty well.
Repressing thoughts- just how it sounds. It's what a human naturally does, keeping thoughts and feeling "bottled down" inside and not expressing them. The question is, is that good or bad?
Why can it be good? In my case, i think it's good because it keeps the peace. There is little drama and chaos when thoughts are kept to oneself. Also, it teaches me to keep things to myself more. I don't hurt anyone and i'm still living without getting yelled at or cursed at. Not to shabby if i do say so myself.
But as always there is the other side, the not so good side. Thoughts being bad- you have to be too cautious. It is as if you don't really have anything free to say because it can hurt someone else. It can also damage one's trust if you do not your thoughts because it does not make you open.
And of course there's that nasty gray area where the "it's ok...but..." ground. I hate this. Life is so much easier with "yes" or "no." I wouldn't be surprised if people gave me comments such as "Oh mary i'm here for you, you can always talk to me." Yea buddy, but when i try sometimes you aren't available or i get the impression that you do not really care that much. Or there's the "there's always a nice way of saying it" and "somethings should be said and that should not be said." Yea thanks, i already know that. Either way, i'm bound to get myself in a sticky situation that i did not want to be in in the first place.
You hold your feeling and opinions to yourself because A) no one gives a damn, B) you cannot trust people, and/or C) someone is bound to get hurt.
Think about it. Think of all your friends. Is there one friend that you can truly tell absolutely everything too- from problems of the day to deepest, darkest secret? I can name one person. And i'm lucky to have that.
So riddle me this, which is better- holding thoughts to yourself or expressing them?
Right now, i pick repress. I'm too damn lazy to get in that many arguments. I'm very much for keeping the peace and keeping things to myself.
Until next time...
have a great day!