Eeee, niver say, since time immemorial
I have probably previously mentioned the moral shift from, it was okay for men to maintain An Establishment outside marriage, to moral opprobrium for men, even in the Highest Rank, who did this, because of changing expectations of marriage, relationships and, of course, availability of divorce so that couples did not have to rub on together whether they wanted to or not and take what other compensations life might afford.
I am now a little, but perhaps not unduly, boggled, at this: The psychology of the threesome: everyone wants one, but who's truly ready for it?
(What, EVERYBODY???!!!)
Though the article itself is fairly acute at pointing out fantasy/reality divides and the differing expectations the various parties might be bringing to the experience.
But (I R hystorianne, this R hystorickal change): Subsequent research found that people found polyamory (often simplified as loving more than one person) marginally more palatable than arrangements allowing for sex without emotion.
A major shift from the 70s, heyday of 'swinging', when the whole point was not forming emotional bonds while 'spicing up' boring ol' monogamy. (And which also had that thing of women who might initially have been somewhat pressured into going finding it actually more rewarding than their partners did...)
I'm also wondering a bit about the 'bucket-list' aspect that seems to come up sometimes in questions to advice columns - that somehow it has become one of the things to check off, rather than a personally felt need. Okay, there is nothing wrong with indulging one's curiosity about new experiences, but in a consumerist culture, I am just a little leary (leery?) of setting just about anything up as a 'must-have' experience. This entry was originally posted at https://oursin.dreamwidth.org/3039361.html. Please comment there using OpenID. View
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