Is it really the smallness of the town?
I did think there was a great honking issue that was flying right by Annalisa Barbieri in her response to this week's Ask: I feel trapped in the small town my partner loves.
Well, possibly that is entirely the case, that it is small and provincial and she is used to a different kind of ambience.
But. He is very close to his family and friends; he sees his mother every day and is happy taking it easy, seeing the same people and going around to his friends’ houses.
I can't help feeling that there are sites where that would immediately be seen as red-flag territory - 'He sees his mother every day?!' - 'Is he taking any trouble to integrate you into his existing friendship/family groups?'.
I.e. I wonder whether the thing is, that her partner already has a life there that he sees no particular reason to make any major alterations to and she is just a bolt-on that he doesn't feel he has to make adaptations for, she must just do any adapting that's necessary.
I don't think it's necessarily all about her craving for change and bright lights of the big cities, I think it might be something that is, perhaps, less easy to put into words. This entry was originally posted at https://oursin.dreamwidth.org/2894295.html. Please comment there using OpenID. View
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