Or you could ask them if they think women have souls
I am really not sure that interesting people cut through small talk by asking questions that sound a) formulaic and rote and b) pretty much the sort of thing you might get asked in an interview:
9 Questions Interesting People Ask to Cut Through the Small Talk.
Just possibly, if people have 'genuine interest in the other person, they don't need to work down a list of questions beginning with 'What excites you right now?' or 'What are you looking forward to?' - to which I hypothesise a response along the lines of, I hear the supper buffet promises to be really spectacular...
But really, there is something basically creepy about opening up people like oysters for the reason given: By showing curiosity about someone's story, accomplishments, passions, or interests, the law of reciprocity usually kicked in, and I had my turn to shine. There was a bonus attached to this strategy: Persuasion increased, which helped me steer the conversation in the direction I wanted it to go.
However, I am a grumpy and cynical ol' introvert and perhaps I would become a social wow if I went around asking people 'What's the most important thing I should know about you?'. (That is a question I am not sure I could even answer.) This entry was originally posted at https://oursin.dreamwidth.org/2731534.html. Please comment there using OpenID. View
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