Can this marriage be saved????
I was just skimming Reddit Relationships, and came across this:
My (24F) husband (28M) of one year thinks that buying books is a waste of money and space.
They have been married for a year and together for three and she has only just discovered the dead wives in the secret room that he has an implacable hostility to the notion that she might want a home library. WTF. He said that buying books is a total waste of money since I already own a library card. He told me that stocking books in our house is pointless as "it's not like I'm going to read every book ten times". He doesn't understand the value of having a small home library. We do have a bookcase (which already contains some books), band he said that there is no way he would buy another one for the rest of my books because "he doesn't want his flat to look like some sort of a nerdhouse".
We also discover, in the discussion in comments: [H]e likes buying "decoration" stuff, like wall pictures. And he says that having a few books is okay for decoration (we already have maybe 15), but he thinks that buying books every month is not okay or acceptable.
We note that although she indicates that 'they' bought the apartment it has become 'his' flat and 'him' buying the bookcase even though they are both earning and have a mutual finance account.
(We also note that one of the things he spends money on is cigarettes: well, I suppose that once they are smoked they are not cluttering up his lovely flat? Though given his comments that if she doesn't spend 30 euros a month on books it will be however much in a few years time, just think how much not smoking might represent...)
While I suppose one might suggest a compromise solution was an ereader and ebooks, this seems to me so wholly unreasonable that I would be less about finding a mutually acceptable solution and more about, does the country in which you reside permit divorce for unreasonable behaviour? This entry was originally posted at https://oursin.dreamwidth.org/2713361.html. Please comment there using OpenID. View
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