'Because you not only bring your harp to the party, you insist on playing it'
I was given to think by the question and answers on this Captain Awkward post:
“What to say when a person asks ‘why didn’t you invite me to your party?
which is a question that should never ever be asked, and that goes even more so for 'are you going to invite me/can I come to your party/event?' (There was a researcher once, associated with my place of work, who did do this: actually outright asked somebody who was having a leaving do for an invitation. We were not sure whether this was social ineptitude or after the custom of their own people. Maybe there are cultures where you are supposed to ask these kinds of questions in order to indicate your interest in attending? Enquiring minds...)
Has anyone else, however, come across the following, or at least, come across it in people over the age of nine (because I can certainly remember the use of this strategy with extreme prejudice in junior school and feel that, though not pretty, it was just about forgivable at that stage of life, but not beyond)? -
Where somebody gets up an event or an excursion specifically to exclude a particular person, who must know that they are being excluded: with, bonus point (in at least one case known to me), instructing particular person to stay away from larger event to which they were making up a party. This entry was originally posted at http://oursin.dreamwidth.org/2190560.html. Please comment there using OpenID. View
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