Is this a non-story, or does it need saying?
Life after lust - the appeal of sexless marriage.
Myself, I am inclining to the first, but I will cut this article quite a lot of slack for leaving in verbatim extensive quotes of nuanced thoughts from Dr Petra Boynton (a regular recipient of the IAMC award) and hoping that her good sense will penetrate many minds concerning the topic of people and sex.
I do think that there is a certain Point Thahr Misst by Ms D'Souza, in that people in their later years may be having good sex but it isn't necessarily 'chandelier-swinging' and there may be less of it in frequency but better quality when it happens. Indeed, I see that I remarked previously that one's 20s aren't necessarily such a great baseline for Best SEXX EVAH.
Providing, of course, that you are not the kind of person who seems to find familiarity anaphrodisiac:
"The whole reason why it is so exciting in the first throes is because you can both objectify each other - that's really the whole fun of it, each of you both being able to treat each other as a piece of meat."
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"Shared history is lovely and cosy, but ultimately it is not terribly sexy."
Or as Anthony Robbins, the motivational expert put it, in a slightly different way: "It is in the realm of uncertainty that your passion is found."
I am over here, cheerleading for the Deep Deep Peace of the Double Bed as, actually, rather better fun than hurlyburlying on a chaise longue.
Also, I am inclined to think that this is wrong, but mileage may well vary on this and, you know, as my darling Stella Browne observed, she had 'never met the normal woman' and I agree:
'[M]any women find themselves suddenly becoming obsessed by sex during the perimenopause; it's like Custer's Last Stand.
Actually, some women find themselves becoming apathetic about sex around the time of the menopause, but as I actually created an identity so that I could contribute to the 'Private Lives' problem of the week in order to say, this isn't permanent. It comes back.
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