The terribly poor stuff just keeps on a-coming
O, Pamela Stephenson Connolly, is this really, truly, only a trust issue?
Because what it suggests to me is that 'sexual liberation' has just raised the stakes on what it is that has the male pouting and saying 'if you really loved me, you'd ---', because this seems to me the 2010 equivalent of those women writing to agony aunts in the early 60s about their boyfriends pressing them for sex.
And the agony aunts then were pretty much clear that it was a mind-game and a powerplay. Okay, there was also the thing of premarital sex was much more of a no-no at that date, partly because of the problems with accessing reliable contraception, but there was also this understanding that the pressuring did have elements of testing how far the woman would go to placate her man.
Not, I wish to state, that there is anything wrong as such with anal sex, sex toys, and threesomes. But in context they sound like the lads-mag wishlist, you know? rather than something that the guy desperately wants within the relationship and has finally got up the nerve to ask for.
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And what about this charmer, eh?
I was disturbed to discover a while ago that my husband had been secretly scanning "intimate" photographs of me, taken when we were both much younger and much more foolish. I now believe he is sharing these, and similar pictures of me, with one (perhaps more) of his pals.
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