Intro Post and Question
Hi, all! I'm Tad. I'm 33 years old, born female and married to a straight man. I've only very recently admitted to and started to deal with a gender dysphoria that's been present at least since I was a teenager and which has been much worse for the past three years or so. I'm not sure if I'm genderqueer, bigendered or FtM, and am in the process
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After much soul-searching and trying different things, I realised that I am male, not genderqueer, and that I couldn't continue with my life the way it was. Once I made that decision, things fell into place with a speed and ease that was (and is) astonishing. I came out to everyone in May and have been living full time since. I started hormones in early July, and just yesterday changed the gender marker on my driver's license, probably the most important part of legal transition for my day-to-day life. This was possible because even the laws changed in my favour shortly after I decided to transition. I'm planning on changing my name as soon as I have the money to do so, and will be changing the gender on my birth certificate at the same time. The only part of transition that didn't fall into my lap like the universe had just been waiting for me to wake up and smell the coffee is surgery, and that's because finances are a huge struggle right now - but they are for pretty much everyone at the moment.
My husband and I are still together, but we're taking it a day at a time. We're closer and happier now than we have been in years, but he just isn't attracted to male bodies. And so, as changes continue and surgeries happen, that part of our relationship will probably fall away. But I know we will still be good friends and family to each other, and for right now we're happy with what we have.
So thank you again. You're right about how much better life is once you're free to really be yourself. I'm glad you have had a great 27 years so far, and I hope I do, too.
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