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[thaddeusdagan]

Hi, all! I'm Tad. I'm 33 years old, born female and married to a straight man. I've only very recently admitted to and started to deal with a gender dysphoria that's been present at least since I was a teenager and which has been much worse for the past three years or so. I'm not sure if I'm genderqueer, bigendered or FtM, and am in the process

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[brilliant_snark]

Hi! I'm 32, born female, currently identifying somewhere in the genderqueer range. My line to friends who know is usually "This is my fence, I am firmly straddling it". I've struggled with my gender identity and sexual orientation for years, and only admitted to a lot of things and started exploring as a married adult. My spouse (biologically male...I'm getting to that) has been amazingly supportive of me and my journey of discovery. The farthest I'm considering at the moment is a breast reduction. Then, in the last year, my "straight and male" spouse came out to me that she feels she is trans, MtF. That she's been dressing female at home and researching in private for years. I assured her that I had suspicions since we met, and that I love her no matter what. Navigating the waters while both exploring our identities is tricky, but honesty is working the best so far. Our marriage is very important to us too. Due to conservative workplaces and uber-conservative families, we are only out to a very small circle, mostly online, with only a few local friends. And our daughter. Yes, we have a kid. Which makes the navigation all the more tricky. Anyway, I've rambled more than I meant to, and not really answered your questions. :P

[thaddeusdagan]

Thank you for the reply, and don't worry about the rambling. :)

It sounds like you're in a very interesting situation. (Possibly interesting in the way of the curse, "May you live in interesting times", but I've always thought that despite the difficulties those were often the most meaningful times to live in.) I'm glad you and your spouse are able to be honest with and supportive of each other through it. It's difficult to navigate one partner's journey through these issues, and I can only admire you for being able to balance two separate journeys at once. I hope you and your spouse find a way through it that allows you both to be happy and together. Having a child makes it even more of a delicate tangle, but I think most children really do want their parents to be healthy and happy and whole and, as long as they know their parents love them, can be much more accepting and understanding of things than adults can. I wish you all the best.