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This comes from a number of things I’ve read about recently.
I have always thought that the people on lj, and the internet as a whole, who constantly scream "No Mo Drama!" are usually the most dramatic. There are those who love nothing more than to call people on their shit, no matter how misguided or uneducated the decision to do so may be. There are those who truly do get fed up and need to say something about what they have read or seen. And then there are those who sit back and take it all in, not out of fear of retribution but more out of curiosity.
When I hear that someone has been reprimanded for something they expressed online it makes me want to pinch my balls through my dick shaft like a toothpaste tube. Sure, gentle ribbing from a friend, a cautious warning with the best intentions or simply a "wtf" is fine when it comes from a place of love, camaraderie or concern. But to go out of your way to say to someone "Hey, I don't like what your doing there so stop." is ludicrous, self absorbed and petty. To say “I’m not the only one who think so, everyone does.” is childish and just plain pointless. Yes, there are a few people on my lj who I have thought to myself "Dude, do you really want to be putting that out there for all to see?" but at the end of the day it is not my choice, therefore, it is not my place to criticize. Those that do the criticizing usually stand behind the wall of “free speech” or “you posted in a public forum therefore I can say what I want” which I find to be bullshit. Yes you CAN say what you want; but should you? If you were on the street would you say it to someone or does the safe distance of being on the other side of a monitor make you braver?
The beauty of the web and lj is the same beauty in the rest of life. You can see things outside the realm of what you know or possibly, are comfortable with. It can push you away or pull you in, repulse you or engorge you. Whatever it does to you is your responsibility to deal with and no one else’s.
Yes, I know saying this won’t change anything or anyone. And I know I may get shat upon for saying it but I don’t care. I truly don’t. Those that know me and love me do it because they choose to and because they know I know them and love them back. They take me for what I am and no one can say anything to me to change that. I know I have many flaws like spelling and stubbornness but they are my crosses to bear not yours.
I’m not trying to instill rules on how to deal with what you encounter online or anything just read the shit and process it. React accordingly but do it with respect. If I invite you into my house don’t take it as an invitation to take a massive crap then tell me my place stinks while walking out the door.
Fire away.
I have always thought that the people on lj, and the internet as a whole, who constantly scream "No Mo Drama!" are usually the most dramatic. There are those who love nothing more than to call people on their shit, no matter how misguided or uneducated the decision to do so may be. There are those who truly do get fed up and need to say something about what they have read or seen. And then there are those who sit back and take it all in, not out of fear of retribution but more out of curiosity.
When I hear that someone has been reprimanded for something they expressed online it makes me want to pinch my balls through my dick shaft like a toothpaste tube. Sure, gentle ribbing from a friend, a cautious warning with the best intentions or simply a "wtf" is fine when it comes from a place of love, camaraderie or concern. But to go out of your way to say to someone "Hey, I don't like what your doing there so stop." is ludicrous, self absorbed and petty. To say “I’m not the only one who think so, everyone does.” is childish and just plain pointless. Yes, there are a few people on my lj who I have thought to myself "Dude, do you really want to be putting that out there for all to see?" but at the end of the day it is not my choice, therefore, it is not my place to criticize. Those that do the criticizing usually stand behind the wall of “free speech” or “you posted in a public forum therefore I can say what I want” which I find to be bullshit. Yes you CAN say what you want; but should you? If you were on the street would you say it to someone or does the safe distance of being on the other side of a monitor make you braver?
The beauty of the web and lj is the same beauty in the rest of life. You can see things outside the realm of what you know or possibly, are comfortable with. It can push you away or pull you in, repulse you or engorge you. Whatever it does to you is your responsibility to deal with and no one else’s.
Yes, I know saying this won’t change anything or anyone. And I know I may get shat upon for saying it but I don’t care. I truly don’t. Those that know me and love me do it because they choose to and because they know I know them and love them back. They take me for what I am and no one can say anything to me to change that. I know I have many flaws like spelling and stubbornness but they are my crosses to bear not yours.
I’m not trying to instill rules on how to deal with what you encounter online or anything just read the shit and process it. React accordingly but do it with respect. If I invite you into my house don’t take it as an invitation to take a massive crap then tell me my place stinks while walking out the door.
Fire away.