updateyness
I'm a parent! Sort of :)
Niece moved in with me a few weeks ago - problems with her half-brother(older). I was kind of freaked out about it because I've been here alone so long, but it's been okay. And there are usually 2-3 other kids here too - her half-sister(younger), niece's boyfriend, and sister's boyfriend/niece's friend. And by being here, I mean they're kind of living here too - the guys stay over too. But it's weird - I look in on them sometimes and it's more like a puppy pile than anything else. They're all asleep in the bed, fully clothed. The boys buy us groceries - and cook! - and have fixed a couple of things around the house. Niece has started back up with her knitting :) and went to the shop with me for part of the day - the boyfriend came along and was fine sitting there with her. I'm a bit pissed at the other kid's parents - apparently they've gone out of town and left him here. He's 15 - he's a fairly responsible kid and I could see being able to leave him, but as far as I can tell, there's no one checking up on him to make sure he's okay. Parents left brother home one time when we went off on vacation, but I'm quite sure they called to check on him and probably had the neighbors check too.
The big problem is that Brother is being a total ass about it. He thinks niece moved in here because she can manipulate me into doing whatever she wants and he's "offended by my liberal morals" because I let the guys stay.
And he wrote a letter to her mom questioning the incident with her half-brother and complaining about the boys, hinting at police involvement. Well, her mother let them stay over too - she'd rather niece be home with the guys rather than out in the streets, which is what I think too. Plus niece will be 17 in 2 weeks and it's highly unlikely the police will do anything especially since her mother doesn't object and I don't object. Brother doesn't think that guys and girls can just be friends - he thinks there has to be something sexual, plus the boyfriend is Hispanic and the other friend is African-American, and brother is a bigot. But he was fine smoking pot with them one day when they all went down there (argh!).
So there are a couple of things around the house that need doing, but the guy I usually get to do them isn't calling me back. Yeah, he's brother's friend. And brother said I might have to get someone else to do cut my grass (something his friend does, using brother's lawn mower). And it looks like I'm going to have to start taking my own trash off, since brother used to do that too. Because he wants us to do everything his way and wants to run niece's life and can't deal with the fact that we don't agree with him. He did give me the child support he usually sends to her mom - but that was before he got mad at us. We'll see how that goes next month. I may end up at Social Security trying to get her put under me and removing him from the situation completely. Man, wouldn't that piss him off!
Still trying to find a paying part time job. Have a couple of leads to try next week. May be setting up a knitting class for which I'd get paid :) But need to make up the sample first.
Niece moved in with me a few weeks ago - problems with her half-brother(older). I was kind of freaked out about it because I've been here alone so long, but it's been okay. And there are usually 2-3 other kids here too - her half-sister(younger), niece's boyfriend, and sister's boyfriend/niece's friend. And by being here, I mean they're kind of living here too - the guys stay over too. But it's weird - I look in on them sometimes and it's more like a puppy pile than anything else. They're all asleep in the bed, fully clothed. The boys buy us groceries - and cook! - and have fixed a couple of things around the house. Niece has started back up with her knitting :) and went to the shop with me for part of the day - the boyfriend came along and was fine sitting there with her. I'm a bit pissed at the other kid's parents - apparently they've gone out of town and left him here. He's 15 - he's a fairly responsible kid and I could see being able to leave him, but as far as I can tell, there's no one checking up on him to make sure he's okay. Parents left brother home one time when we went off on vacation, but I'm quite sure they called to check on him and probably had the neighbors check too.
The big problem is that Brother is being a total ass about it. He thinks niece moved in here because she can manipulate me into doing whatever she wants and he's "offended by my liberal morals" because I let the guys stay.
And he wrote a letter to her mom questioning the incident with her half-brother and complaining about the boys, hinting at police involvement. Well, her mother let them stay over too - she'd rather niece be home with the guys rather than out in the streets, which is what I think too. Plus niece will be 17 in 2 weeks and it's highly unlikely the police will do anything especially since her mother doesn't object and I don't object. Brother doesn't think that guys and girls can just be friends - he thinks there has to be something sexual, plus the boyfriend is Hispanic and the other friend is African-American, and brother is a bigot. But he was fine smoking pot with them one day when they all went down there (argh!).
So there are a couple of things around the house that need doing, but the guy I usually get to do them isn't calling me back. Yeah, he's brother's friend. And brother said I might have to get someone else to do cut my grass (something his friend does, using brother's lawn mower). And it looks like I'm going to have to start taking my own trash off, since brother used to do that too. Because he wants us to do everything his way and wants to run niece's life and can't deal with the fact that we don't agree with him. He did give me the child support he usually sends to her mom - but that was before he got mad at us. We'll see how that goes next month. I may end up at Social Security trying to get her put under me and removing him from the situation completely. Man, wouldn't that piss him off!
Still trying to find a paying part time job. Have a couple of leads to try next week. May be setting up a knitting class for which I'd get paid :) But need to make up the sample first.