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Text received at 11:43:08 AM: "Hey do you know if you will be busy in February or March besides school? Nick and I are getting married."
Ho-ly crap.
Umm, hell NO I'm not busy.
One of my best friends is getting married. I've seen this coming for a while - it's no surprise at all, but wow. So soon. It makes me worry.
Listening to her stress about how it's so early and having to plan it and her parents reactions made me realize how thinly spread she's getting, and it scares me. Apart from the problems in the relationship itself, this event proposes so many new problems. Nick is in the Marines. He has been since the end of high school, and since then I've seen my friend delve further into depression. Seeing him every month or so just hasn't been cutting it. He's being deployed to Iraq in March. In addition to having to deal with that, he decided it was best to have the wedding before he left - less on his mind when he's getting shot at, makes sense. But then there'd be so much more at stake. It's no longer his girlfriend or fiance who's back home waiting for him to come back, it's his wife. My best friend - the wife of a Marine, ring on her finger, alone, and wondering if he'll make it back alright. After he finishes in Iraq she's moving down south to live with him on the base and go to school. This is both good and bad - I think she may be more motivated to do well and stay in school if this is the case - something that I've stressed so far in our friendship - but she'd be there with Nick, alone otherwise. Granted, it could make for some very fun vacations on my part, but really... how is that going to work?
Apart from those reasons and tons of others I can't even begin to contemplate, she's got a wedding to plan in around 7 months. She's got her Mom to help her out, no doubt, but listening to her talk about everything she needs to do made me instantly take it upon myself to help in any way I can. I'm sad I can't be there for her, physically with her, joking around and cheering her up like I usually do.I just...don't know. The worst thing about though is that when she told me there was no excitement in her voice at all. It was, "yeah, Nick and I are getting married..." and naturally there wasn't much of a response from me either. I'm just worried she feels pressured and is doing it for all the wrong reasons. They're great together, but when they're apart they fight often, as demonstrated in many long-distance relationships, including my own. I know how hard it can be, and I am stunned at her ability to keep faith in it. She really lives for him, and if something were to happen to him in Iraq... God knows what would happen to her. The fact that I won't be around for her scares me too. As little as I could do for her, I'd still like the ability to try.
This should be a happy occasion. Why isn't it?
*sigh*
In other news, t-minus 11 days until I fall helpless toward the Earth at 120mph. Excitement? Maybe.
Now I leave you to investigate wedding-related things, like bridesmaids dresses that won't make me look like a high-society clown.
Ho-ly crap.
Umm, hell NO I'm not busy.
One of my best friends is getting married. I've seen this coming for a while - it's no surprise at all, but wow. So soon. It makes me worry.
Listening to her stress about how it's so early and having to plan it and her parents reactions made me realize how thinly spread she's getting, and it scares me. Apart from the problems in the relationship itself, this event proposes so many new problems. Nick is in the Marines. He has been since the end of high school, and since then I've seen my friend delve further into depression. Seeing him every month or so just hasn't been cutting it. He's being deployed to Iraq in March. In addition to having to deal with that, he decided it was best to have the wedding before he left - less on his mind when he's getting shot at, makes sense. But then there'd be so much more at stake. It's no longer his girlfriend or fiance who's back home waiting for him to come back, it's his wife. My best friend - the wife of a Marine, ring on her finger, alone, and wondering if he'll make it back alright. After he finishes in Iraq she's moving down south to live with him on the base and go to school. This is both good and bad - I think she may be more motivated to do well and stay in school if this is the case - something that I've stressed so far in our friendship - but she'd be there with Nick, alone otherwise. Granted, it could make for some very fun vacations on my part, but really... how is that going to work?
Apart from those reasons and tons of others I can't even begin to contemplate, she's got a wedding to plan in around 7 months. She's got her Mom to help her out, no doubt, but listening to her talk about everything she needs to do made me instantly take it upon myself to help in any way I can. I'm sad I can't be there for her, physically with her, joking around and cheering her up like I usually do.I just...don't know. The worst thing about though is that when she told me there was no excitement in her voice at all. It was, "yeah, Nick and I are getting married..." and naturally there wasn't much of a response from me either. I'm just worried she feels pressured and is doing it for all the wrong reasons. They're great together, but when they're apart they fight often, as demonstrated in many long-distance relationships, including my own. I know how hard it can be, and I am stunned at her ability to keep faith in it. She really lives for him, and if something were to happen to him in Iraq... God knows what would happen to her. The fact that I won't be around for her scares me too. As little as I could do for her, I'd still like the ability to try.
This should be a happy occasion. Why isn't it?
*sigh*
In other news, t-minus 11 days until I fall helpless toward the Earth at 120mph. Excitement? Maybe.
Now I leave you to investigate wedding-related things, like bridesmaids dresses that won't make me look like a high-society clown.