I'm feeling insightful
I was on the phone with a really good friend of mine, talking about a challenge she is now facing. I could tell that she was feeling defeated by life because she now has a huge rock thrown in her path.
I am reminded of a conversation over coffee I had last semester. I ran into a friend I hadnt seen in a while, and sat with her and her friend. Somehow we got onto topic of my heart problems. I explained what had been happening, and gave the usual answers to the usual questions. Her friend, someone I hadnt known for more than 15 minutes, and now cannot even recall her name, said she was impressed with me. "It's just amazing that you are like...'OK, this is just something I've got to deal with now.' I just think that's really admirable."
I dont remember her name...I can recall her face a little bit and I can tell you exactly what she was wearing, but the comment stuck with me.
One episode of SATC: Miranda's gyno tells her she has a lazy ovary. Her chances of becoming pregnant (which she was not trying to do at the present time) were cut in half. After hearing this news, she realized that she may never be able to have children, and she adjusted her outlook on life just a tad. She argued with a date that "you never know what you will be doing in the future, what you will consider."
But, I continue the point with a quote by Thoreau:
"However mean your life is, meet it and live it: do not shun it and call it hard names. Cultivate poverty like a garden herb, like sage. Do not trouble yourself much to get new things, whether clothes or friends. Things do not change, we change. Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts. "
Simple fact: You dont know what lies ahead.
Fact we may over look: Unexpected turns come, and we get so involved in them, we kind of miss an interesting thought.
Fun game.
Think back to a year ago...not necessarily the exact night, but think around the 4th of July last year.
Where were you?
Who were you spending the holiday with?
What were you doing?
What were you doing most of the days around this time last year?
Were you seeing anyone?
Did you want to be seeing anyone specific?
What were your main goals for the near future?
What was your biggest strife?
Answer the same qustions for today, and if someone came to you, and told you about your present answers, and said this is what you will be doing a year from now...which parts of the game would shock you the most? This could even apply to looking back to 6 months ago, a semester ago.
The point of all this is not that because the love of your life breaks up with you, you get some really bad medical news, or you undergo drastic changes of any kind in your life means that you should be skipping down the street singing about how much you love life. Cultivating it like an herb is not how I would put it...but bringing life's twists-good and bad- should be cultivated to become a part of you. It is something that you do have to cultivate; an event wont change you in an instant, it takes time to analyze and heal and evolve, but what would we be without evolution?
I am reminded of a conversation over coffee I had last semester. I ran into a friend I hadnt seen in a while, and sat with her and her friend. Somehow we got onto topic of my heart problems. I explained what had been happening, and gave the usual answers to the usual questions. Her friend, someone I hadnt known for more than 15 minutes, and now cannot even recall her name, said she was impressed with me. "It's just amazing that you are like...'OK, this is just something I've got to deal with now.' I just think that's really admirable."
I dont remember her name...I can recall her face a little bit and I can tell you exactly what she was wearing, but the comment stuck with me.
One episode of SATC: Miranda's gyno tells her she has a lazy ovary. Her chances of becoming pregnant (which she was not trying to do at the present time) were cut in half. After hearing this news, she realized that she may never be able to have children, and she adjusted her outlook on life just a tad. She argued with a date that "you never know what you will be doing in the future, what you will consider."
But, I continue the point with a quote by Thoreau:
"However mean your life is, meet it and live it: do not shun it and call it hard names. Cultivate poverty like a garden herb, like sage. Do not trouble yourself much to get new things, whether clothes or friends. Things do not change, we change. Sell your clothes and keep your thoughts. "
Simple fact: You dont know what lies ahead.
Fact we may over look: Unexpected turns come, and we get so involved in them, we kind of miss an interesting thought.
Fun game.
Think back to a year ago...not necessarily the exact night, but think around the 4th of July last year.
Where were you?
Who were you spending the holiday with?
What were you doing?
What were you doing most of the days around this time last year?
Were you seeing anyone?
Did you want to be seeing anyone specific?
What were your main goals for the near future?
What was your biggest strife?
Answer the same qustions for today, and if someone came to you, and told you about your present answers, and said this is what you will be doing a year from now...which parts of the game would shock you the most? This could even apply to looking back to 6 months ago, a semester ago.
The point of all this is not that because the love of your life breaks up with you, you get some really bad medical news, or you undergo drastic changes of any kind in your life means that you should be skipping down the street singing about how much you love life. Cultivating it like an herb is not how I would put it...but bringing life's twists-good and bad- should be cultivated to become a part of you. It is something that you do have to cultivate; an event wont change you in an instant, it takes time to analyze and heal and evolve, but what would we be without evolution?