Food for thought:
I'm slowly becoming cognizant of just how much people actually lie. How truly selfish and egocentric individuals are... especially to make themselves look better in other's eyes. It's interesting.
Trust is a funny concept. Do you trust people initially or do they have to earn your trust? Do you trust them 100% and then slowly lower that percentage the more they betray your trust? Do you take them as a liar and improve your percentage of trust the more they prove themselves trustworthy? Or do you start with a medium amount of trust and fluctuate the scale appropriately with the level of trust built or lost? Do you trust the entire individual or only specific aspects of the person? Does the way you trust change over time or is it relatively stable?
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. I would hazard our approach as individuals, is perhaps, a personality trait; a little insight into the attachment style, security, and goodness of fit in our environments. It's all so fascinating to me.
Personally, I think I am overly trusting of people. Maybe I am just young and naive. For example, I work with drug/alcohol addicts... they lie to me left and right, but I still trust them. However, I identify my trust for them as being a bit different than my trust for, say, my parents. I trust my clients to lie to me. Their lifestyle and addiction have shaped their behaviors to a more deceiving reaction. Perhaps to reduce or avoid the ramifications of the truth?
It's similar to a child who punches their sibling and the parent catches them. Why do they lie? To avoid, and potentially escape, the consequences for their wrong actions. Right?
Trust is a funny concept. Do you trust people initially or do they have to earn your trust? Do you trust them 100% and then slowly lower that percentage the more they betray your trust? Do you take them as a liar and improve your percentage of trust the more they prove themselves trustworthy? Or do you start with a medium amount of trust and fluctuate the scale appropriately with the level of trust built or lost? Do you trust the entire individual or only specific aspects of the person? Does the way you trust change over time or is it relatively stable?
I don't think there is a right or wrong answer. I would hazard our approach as individuals, is perhaps, a personality trait; a little insight into the attachment style, security, and goodness of fit in our environments. It's all so fascinating to me.
Personally, I think I am overly trusting of people. Maybe I am just young and naive. For example, I work with drug/alcohol addicts... they lie to me left and right, but I still trust them. However, I identify my trust for them as being a bit different than my trust for, say, my parents. I trust my clients to lie to me. Their lifestyle and addiction have shaped their behaviors to a more deceiving reaction. Perhaps to reduce or avoid the ramifications of the truth?
It's similar to a child who punches their sibling and the parent catches them. Why do they lie? To avoid, and potentially escape, the consequences for their wrong actions. Right?