love and relationships
the word love has been popping up a lot with me lately. im not even the one bringing it up...other people do. so i feel that this is the righ thing to post at the time. as we all know the word love is used so lightly. love is a strong word. i think somewhere in our minds we all know that. so why do some of us use it with low meaning?
its how some of us say it...its how the media puts it out there...its how we percieve it when were young. its society itself. its in movies. those ever so freaking CORNY CORNY CORNY movies with pathetic love stories. i depspise movies like that. i hate A LOT of lovey dovey movies. A LOT. you have a to admit that chicks...more than guys...will think about the future. there are certian chicks that can talk about it for hours. theyre curious about who they will marry...how many kids theyll have...what their names will be..etc. so those same girls will see these type of movies over and over and over again. and they just end up DREAMING AND DREAMING AND DREAMING of the perfect guy nad having the perfect love story. somewhere in their mind...thats what they want. a love story.
then they end up liking a guy. who may or may not be an asshole... and just hope for that love story to come. but you have to tell apart what you want and whats real. sometimes you want something so much that you end up believing it. they would like to believe that they are in love. does the guy feel the same way? who knows?
when you say "i love you" its supossed to have meaning. its supossed to mean something. it shouldnt be something you feel obligated to say and its not something that you say just after weeks of knowing each other..its not something you say so quickly. its not something that you should just tell someone and act like its nothing. its not nothing. its a very strong word. you shouldnt say "you accidentally kicked me but its okay...i still love you!!!" to your friend and walk away with your other friends. THATS CRAP!!! CRAP!!! CRAP!!! CRAP!!! but then again...we all have our different definitions of love. its not so easily defined for everyone. the dictionary definition is one thing but its more than what it says in the dictoinary. it really is.
silly girls rushing into so much. sheriously. why not just sit back and relax and see whats going to happen? thats how i like things to be. im in no rush at all. and trully...i didnt see danny coming. well this isnt about me. so yes. people and their wanting to have someone sickens me. i HAVE to hear it from people who are great. its just fhuifhagfbeaygb. why cant you just wait? wait. wait and wait. theres no need to rush. at this age...you shouldnt be in a rush. what exactly are you rushing into? a "relationship" that youll go through quickly and will end quickly? then after youve done what youve wanted whats left? you didnt REALLY REALLY like the person anyways. you just sort of thought he was hot...had an okay personality ...but the BIG BIG BIG part that i think is important is getting to know one another and actually figuring out how you feel and considering if you want to be with this person. but noooo. is any of that on some peoples minds? NO ITS NOT.
some people just dont want a relationship at all and just want someone to feel on and all that. going out with someone for those types of reasons isnt a relationship. i know that the guy likes it. but what is the girl thinking? with all of that mush about the perfect love story and crap?
when you think about it...not everyone who has a boyfriend or girlfriend is actually in a relationship. theres a variety. like tony and janet. they fight over the stupidest shit. most of their fights are just so damn unnecessary and its not even funny. some guys are just in it for sexual pleasures or at least try to get some sexual pleasures.
then theres what other people say and expect when you go out with someone. i should know this very damn well. some people are just plain nosey when it comes to relationships. sheriously. like people i barely trust will ask "how are you and danny?". its like they expect me to give them details or something. not only that theyll ask what weve done and what we havent done. when i tell them what we havent done they seem shocked or something. whats there to be shocked about? sheriously? were in no rush. they expect me to hold his hand...hug him whever i see him(whats the point in that? a hug each time you see each other has no meaning)..kiss him...etc. its all stupid. theyre jsut desperate for porn and crap. and all of that isnt what im in this for anways. cant they understand that? and this is the way that me and danny want to be. he doesnt who one sign of nit liking this. some people are just plain stupid when it comes to relationships. sheriously.
yvonne also made me want to write about how some people can have a sherious crush on someone and say "IM TOTALLY IN LOVE WITH HIM!!!" while they barely know him. that shit really really sickens me. it can be funny to a point but it usualy ends up sickening me. its all part of the teen years i guess. hopefully...its just a phase. the only reason why they say that is because they want to believe that theyre in love ...simply it. its all in the mind..none of that "love" is real or anything.
some people try to use peer pressure against each other with relationships. its pathetic. weve all heard it before. i know we all have. theyll say real stupid things such as "you should go out with him." or something like that. thats a stupid thing to tell someone. no one can really really say that you SHOULD go out with this and that person. they probably dont know what you want in a guy or girl ...etc..ya knoe how we do? well yeah. it just makes more and more people rush into something that barely a relationship. then youll hear something like "theyre an ugly couple." i try to avoid saying that. i think calling someone an ugly couple is just wrong.
so back to what i really really want to get to. the word love. its so hard to define....really it is. some fear it...others long for it...and certain people imagine it. people want others to explain it. its not that easy to explain now is it? people have their own definitions of love. some give it low meaning while others stay away from it. they fear it...etc. then people want you to prove it or something. whats the point in that? really now? i dont even bring up that word much. other people do. theyll say things like "you love him that much?"... "i think laurens in love"... and ive even been told that im lucky. to me ...to love someone and to be IN LOVE are 2 very different things.