To call or not to call
*sigh* Ok, I have a little issue that needs to be dealt with but I'm not sure of the plan of action just yet. A couple of weeks ago a girl came into the Brewery for a few drinks with a friend. It was the third time she'd been in there within about a week and a half, so I suspected maybe I was the reason. She was cute, I'd say, with dyed blond short hair and pretty blue eyes. Well I chatted up her and her friend for a while between table visits and she pops in with "Would you like to do something, sometime?" Sure, why not. So we exchanged numbers and went out the next Sunday.
I picked her up at her house in the afternoon and first we went for coffee. Had a bit of coffee and then headed to Westminster for the Butterfly Pavilion. The BP is like a huge greenhouse with 150 species of butterfly let loose. You walk along a little path with tropical plants and trees flanking it, and sometimes the butterflies will land on you. Very date-friendly place, and good for people just getting to know eachother. At this point I feel like things are going really well. She's witty and smart and has many endearing qualities. So far so good.
From there we went to the Sun Ice Centre for a little skating but were deterred by three little-league hockey games. That's okay. We sat for a while watching one of the games, she choosing one team and I the other, and we talked a buncha trash about how our team was kicking ass. Ok, so she's got a bit of imagination. That's good. Then we had a bite to eat at a little steakhouse. Conversation flowed pretty easily with mercifully few nervous silences. Some of the things I learned about her didn't exactly jibe with me. Dinner over, we headed back to her house. By now I'm pretty sure I don't want to be involved romantically with this girl. As I said, she has many endearing qualities but is missing some things I look for in a girl. Using the excuse of letting my dog out soon (which was true) I relieved myself of killing the rest of the evening with her. However, when we reached her house I had to take the monstrous piss of my young life and, thinking ahead to my hour drive up the mountain, I asked to use her bathroom. It must have looked as if I WANTED to "come up for a bit".
After the bathroom visit, she showed me some of her favorite Kung Fu scenes on DVD, and I made a break for the door. I offered a half-hearted second date of hiking the next weekend and she accepted. As I leaned in for a goodbye hug, she must have thought a kiss was coming. So I got the half-lip half-cheek kiss and like a coward, I kissed her back. I didn't have the heart to reject her just then. I wish I had now, though, because I haven't called her in two weeks and need to. I did leave a message on her phone about the hiking trip a while back when I had to work on the day I said we'd go, but now I feel like I need to let her know I'm not interested so she doesn't wait for my call. That's the polite thing to do, right? In the past I would have just ignored it and then we might see eachother and she'd be pissed and I'd be embarrassed for acting like a jerk.
What do I say though? "I had a fun time hanging out with you but I don't want to see you again." Maybe I give myself too much credit. It's possible she was only kissing me because she thought I wanted it. I just don't know. If I'm going to call, though, I need to do it sooner than later. I really hate dating, did I mention that?
I picked her up at her house in the afternoon and first we went for coffee. Had a bit of coffee and then headed to Westminster for the Butterfly Pavilion. The BP is like a huge greenhouse with 150 species of butterfly let loose. You walk along a little path with tropical plants and trees flanking it, and sometimes the butterflies will land on you. Very date-friendly place, and good for people just getting to know eachother. At this point I feel like things are going really well. She's witty and smart and has many endearing qualities. So far so good.
From there we went to the Sun Ice Centre for a little skating but were deterred by three little-league hockey games. That's okay. We sat for a while watching one of the games, she choosing one team and I the other, and we talked a buncha trash about how our team was kicking ass. Ok, so she's got a bit of imagination. That's good. Then we had a bite to eat at a little steakhouse. Conversation flowed pretty easily with mercifully few nervous silences. Some of the things I learned about her didn't exactly jibe with me. Dinner over, we headed back to her house. By now I'm pretty sure I don't want to be involved romantically with this girl. As I said, she has many endearing qualities but is missing some things I look for in a girl. Using the excuse of letting my dog out soon (which was true) I relieved myself of killing the rest of the evening with her. However, when we reached her house I had to take the monstrous piss of my young life and, thinking ahead to my hour drive up the mountain, I asked to use her bathroom. It must have looked as if I WANTED to "come up for a bit".
After the bathroom visit, she showed me some of her favorite Kung Fu scenes on DVD, and I made a break for the door. I offered a half-hearted second date of hiking the next weekend and she accepted. As I leaned in for a goodbye hug, she must have thought a kiss was coming. So I got the half-lip half-cheek kiss and like a coward, I kissed her back. I didn't have the heart to reject her just then. I wish I had now, though, because I haven't called her in two weeks and need to. I did leave a message on her phone about the hiking trip a while back when I had to work on the day I said we'd go, but now I feel like I need to let her know I'm not interested so she doesn't wait for my call. That's the polite thing to do, right? In the past I would have just ignored it and then we might see eachother and she'd be pissed and I'd be embarrassed for acting like a jerk.
What do I say though? "I had a fun time hanging out with you but I don't want to see you again." Maybe I give myself too much credit. It's possible she was only kissing me because she thought I wanted it. I just don't know. If I'm going to call, though, I need to do it sooner than later. I really hate dating, did I mention that?