What's your take on the L-word? Say you've been seeing this guy and he hasn't said "I love you" but he's started calling you "love" or he slips it in some other way. Call him out on it? Play it his way? Let it go?
You've never heard of The L Word? I mean, it's probably a good thing. The show was terrible and their portrayal of bisexuality disgusting, but I thought everyone had heard of it.
Again, it all depends on their relationship and the situation. If I've learned anything about that word, it's that not only does it change from person to person and situation to situation, it can change with the person you're in love with depending on the day. Trying to pick it apart for anyone else doesn't work very well.
Trying not to be too insulted by that first comment. ;)
Seriously, it's hard enough trying to figure out love for ourselves. Maybe that's why we look at it in other people you know. But it's all about the person and the situation. I will say "I love you" to friends - because I do - all the time but it was so hard to say it to my boyfriend because that creates a world of vulnerability that I wasn't ready for for a long time. The chance of being hurt was so different.
Tell your friend to just ask the question. Unless she's not ready for the answer. But it sounds like she is.
I think what you said right at the end there is exactly right. As far as I know, she's never given him any indication that she feels anything at all. She doesn't use pet names. I guess he's said it once before but it wasn't in any context when that would have been the right thing to say, so her response was that she knows. I can see how he might be afraid to put it legitimately out there if he doesn't know for sure that she'll return the sentiment.
It means what it means, you know. I think we put too much emphasis on words sometimes and not enough emphasis on the context behind them.
There's this acting exercise that is done on the first day of every single program ever, doesn't matter what level you're at, where you are given a phrase and have to say it with all different kinds of emotion behind it. It really changes how we think of words, you know. They're the vessel, but they aren't the cargo.
And I think it completely depends on the relationship and the situation in which it is said.
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One of my friends, not Ed, has been involved with this guy for months now and she's known him even longer.
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Again, it all depends on their relationship and the situation. If I've learned anything about that word, it's that not only does it change from person to person and situation to situation, it can change with the person you're in love with depending on the day. Trying to pick it apart for anyone else doesn't work very well.
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Yeah, that's a good point.
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Seriously, it's hard enough trying to figure out love for ourselves. Maybe that's why we look at it in other people you know. But it's all about the person and the situation. I will say "I love you" to friends - because I do - all the time but it was so hard to say it to my boyfriend because that creates a world of vulnerability that I wasn't ready for for a long time. The chance of being hurt was so different.
Tell your friend to just ask the question. Unless she's not ready for the answer. But it sounds like she is.
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I think what you said right at the end there is exactly right. As far as I know, she's never given him any indication that she feels anything at all. She doesn't use pet names. I guess he's said it once before but it wasn't in any context when that would have been the right thing to say, so her response was that she knows. I can see how he might be afraid to put it legitimately out there if he doesn't know for sure that she'll return the sentiment.
I think she's ready to know.
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It means what it means, you know. I think we put too much emphasis on words sometimes and not enough emphasis on the context behind them.
There's this acting exercise that is done on the first day of every single program ever, doesn't matter what level you're at, where you are given a phrase and have to say it with all different kinds of emotion behind it. It really changes how we think of words, you know. They're the vessel, but they aren't the cargo.
Yeah. I think that made sense.
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