I was thinking about the phrase: comfort zones. Other than confirming how one best deals with investments, I look at it as more of an alert zone. Alert to denial, stagnation, crowding fears, and numbness
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I liked your phrase: Everyone's talking and no one is listening". I think I agree with you. Even my children, things I've mentioned more than once and still they don't grasp what I've shared with them. Everyone seems to be on a ride to nowhere. My daughter never stops complaining/yelling and has a hair trigger temper. Then she tells me how quickly her daughter (my darling granddaugher) starts screaming. . . where does she think my granddaughter gets it from. My daughter models it. But, if I tell her that, I risk being screamed at. I will tell her, just not today.
I used to know a man who collected recyclables and deposit bottles too. I used to save mine for him and keep them in the trunk of my car to give them to him when I'd see him. He was definitely homeless, not so clean or handsome. And barely spoke. But, he always said thank you. So, that's something. I never wanted to make him feel awkward, so I never asked him anything other than if he wanted the bottles.
Getting back to the friend thing. I feel for you. wackdaddy and I spend lots of time alone. It's a good thing we like TV and games, and each other. Getting together with our friends is a very infrequent pleasure. And with my "girlfriends" many times I am the one giving the "excuses". I rarely get to pick the movie or where we have lunch. . . so I'm not too anxious to go. Right there, in their company, I can feel invisible. And the money thing. . . that's a whole subject in and of itself. Car handle broke off my drivers door last week and it cost me $260. Could I have done w/o it? No way!
I agree, I will feel awkward to, asking the guy a question, but if it's casual and friendly, I hope that it will be easy for him to answer or not answer. Its something I find myself regretting,not reaching out more. I notice when I'm walking with Sahara (my dog) people talk very freely with me - too freely, I might add. I get so much unasked for advice.
Bummer about the car door handle. Funny, if that happened to me when I was much younger, I know I would have entered through the passenger door for a long long time!
I've never been completely comfortable with groups of people, I know exactly what you mean about feeling invisible. It is so great to have a good partner, I'm happy for you two. There is so much ease inside a relationship. I'm back to feeling exposed and anxious, and acting as if I don't. Default mode.
So what is your daughter's situation? Is she overwhelmed with responsibilities and finances? It must be hard to walk the line of helping/interfering. But as Mom and Grandma, I'd bet you have alot of sway.
I used to know a man who collected recyclables and deposit bottles too. I used to save mine for him and keep them in the trunk of my car to give them to him when I'd see him. He was definitely homeless, not so clean or handsome. And barely spoke. But, he always said thank you. So, that's something. I never wanted to make him feel awkward, so I never asked him anything other than if he wanted the bottles.
Getting back to the friend thing. I feel for you. wackdaddy and I spend lots of time alone. It's a good thing we like TV and games, and each other. Getting together with our friends is a very infrequent pleasure. And with my "girlfriends" many times I am the one giving the "excuses". I rarely get to pick the movie or where we have lunch. . . so I'm not too anxious to go. Right there, in their company, I can feel invisible. And the money thing. . . that's a whole subject in and of itself. Car handle broke off my drivers door last week and it cost me $260. Could I have done w/o it? No way!
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Bummer about the car door handle. Funny, if that happened to me when I was much younger, I know I would have entered through the passenger door for a long long time!
I've never been completely comfortable with groups of people, I know exactly what you mean about feeling invisible. It is so great to have a good partner, I'm happy for you two. There is so much ease inside a relationship. I'm back to feeling exposed and anxious, and acting as if I don't. Default mode.
So what is your daughter's situation? Is she overwhelmed with responsibilities and finances? It must be hard to walk the line of helping/interfering. But as Mom and Grandma, I'd bet you have alot of sway.
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