jumping through hoops
So, I got a little inspiration for this topic late last night when I was on a caffeine high and could not fall asleep, and it really intrigues me so I thought that I would just put it out there. I guess I could summarize it in the question: Why do some people try harder than others to impress people (of the opposite or same sex) with little to no results, & other who don't try at all, or try very little end up with everything? I'm not speaking directly from personal experience, although I think that all of us may have had a run in with this type of situation at least once in our life, but take for example a girl trying to impress a guy, or even just another group of girls. The one trying to impress may make things for the person(s), or go out of the way to do kind things for them, but with no reciprocated action; they may even be looked down upon. Then there is the person who will do nothing, but will always be disapointing (not necessarily in a bad connotation) a person or a group because they have plans with other people, a social butterfly if you will. One could argue that it is all about compatibility, and if you don't mesh well with a person, there is no way that making them cookies is going to change how they feel, but on the other hand making them cookies or doing something nice could show a deeper side of who you really are. Confused yet? ha ha I guess the point that I am coming to here is that it is best to be yourself and not walk around always trying to impress people. Good things seem to happen to people when they least expect it. I can't tell you how many of my friends have told me that they went into a situation not expecting anything, and ended up meeting the "love of their life"...I use that term loosely because of the fact that most of my friends aren't even 20 yet...but still.
Now, there is another question that arises from this though, what if your nature is to be nice and give to others? What if that is who you are and that it makes you happy to share and continuously shower others with "gifts"? Can this come off as "trying too hard" when in fact it is just who you are? I'm not really sure, but all I can say is that when in doubt, be yourself, because if you start being someone else or trying to please everyone but yourself, then one day you may wake up and realize that you have wasted you entire life and that you know nothing about who you REALLY are and what you really stand for.
Alright well, that is all that I've got for now.
love, love, love,
emily elizabeth
Now, there is another question that arises from this though, what if your nature is to be nice and give to others? What if that is who you are and that it makes you happy to share and continuously shower others with "gifts"? Can this come off as "trying too hard" when in fact it is just who you are? I'm not really sure, but all I can say is that when in doubt, be yourself, because if you start being someone else or trying to please everyone but yourself, then one day you may wake up and realize that you have wasted you entire life and that you know nothing about who you REALLY are and what you really stand for.
Alright well, that is all that I've got for now.
love, love, love,
emily elizabeth