Yeah, I tend to think about kids and the family unit when I think about divorce. I can't say that all kids will react to divorce the same way, but the people I've known who had divorced parents have noted that it left major scars on them. Divorce can also disrupt the ability of the family to maintain wealth and build stability. For example, if two parents are splitting, then they're no longer pooling their resources together for their family.
In once case I know of, a close family friend of ours split with her husband and got re-married to two different men back-to-back after her initial divorce within a four-year time period. I feel terrible for her kids because they were not only bounced along the three marriages, but she was always trying to turn them against the father. They were previously upper-middle class, but she was suddenly struggling financially, partially because she was constantly duking things out with her husband in court. I really don't know what their problem was, but the entire affair was shocking to me, and I wasn't even in the family.
If a divorce were amicable, it might not be so bad, though it would still have the financial and emotional effects. But it seems that the brutal reality of divorce makes it something to be avoided at all costs.
In once case I know of, a close family friend of ours split with her husband and got re-married to two different men back-to-back after her initial divorce within a four-year time period. I feel terrible for her kids because they were not only bounced along the three marriages, but she was always trying to turn them against the father. They were previously upper-middle class, but she was suddenly struggling financially, partially because she was constantly duking things out with her husband in court. I really don't know what their problem was, but the entire affair was shocking to me, and I wasn't even in the family.
If a divorce were amicable, it might not be so bad, though it would still have the financial and emotional effects. But it seems that the brutal reality of divorce makes it something to be avoided at all costs.
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