Use of Surrogate Sex Partners Rising Among Women

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Sex therapists talk with their patients to help them confront their sexual problems and improve their sex lives. But some patients need more than talk therapy. They need practice in the bedroom, and have no spouse or partner to turn to.

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[lickety_split]

I guess my main beef with this is who qualifies someone to be a paid fuck buddy surrogate sex partner? What's the training? The certification? Is there a board you can complain to? How does anyone know they're good at fucking anyway? Do they fuck the therapist first as proof? Eat her out? Suck his dick? How do they prove they're the Sexual Spartan they're supposed to be to these vulnerable people? I mean, clearly this isn't regulated so who makes sure that these men aren't passing on diseases to their clients?

I dunno it just sounds... predatory, somehow.

If the patient becomes attached, "That is great, it's awesome because the client never allowed herself to open her heart and fall in love with someone before," Rotem said.

Mmmm, no. And I'd think that as someone engaging in this would recommend the patient see a new surrogate if this happened, just like any other professional whose client has developed romantic feelings for them. I mean clearly, this man doesn't have one fucking clue how damaging this could be to a patient if his initial (and only) response is, "IT'S GREAT!!!"

[tin_foil_hat]

I think regulation is important (by the correct bodies), you don't want Mr. Sleaze claiming to be a sexual surrogate just to get laid. I presume testing would be regulated similar to sex work. Over here you have to have an STI test every two months.

I suspect (or strongly hope) that that is a hippy way of gently saying "it's ok that you feel open and attached, it's really positive you can feel those emotions, but you realise this is a professional relationship and those feelings are coming from X, right" rather than scaring the client and going "Ew no! I'm only doing this because you pay me".

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[hey_mayonegg]

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[llivla]

I would *think* since it's a psychological field that screening for a background in psychology would be necessary to be hired as a surrogate by a sex therapist. but yeahhhh, as it's outlined here it doesn't sound like there is a firm thing in place for such a vulnerable position for the client, who already has problems of intimacy. At least the article is very firm that intercourse comes way later in the process, and who knows, it might not be required at all for some patients.

(sorry mods lj cut off my comment??? smh