Conservative Group Removes Slavery Line from "Marriage Vow" Pledge

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Conservative Group Removes Slavery Line from "Marriage Vow" Pledge

After public outcry about a line in their "Marriage Vow" pledge that made controversial claims about African American children perhaps being better off during slavery, the Family Leader apparently decided to drop that line over the weekend.The conservative group's vow, which

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[chasingtides]

I don't understand why conservatives think "two parent household" is inherently better than any other family structure.

In the best of all possible worlds, where all people are good and kind and good parents and upright citizens and have the needs of others at the forefront of their thoughts, being a child raised in a setting where you have extended family and immediate family surrounding you, including a two parent structure, works. However, we do not live in the best of all possible worlds. Sometimes parents and other family members are abusers, rapists, addicts, people who don't want to be parents, people who want to use children or adults to their own less-than-kindly ends, people who shouldn't be around those who cannot or will not defend themselves; sometimes everyone in the family is a wonderful person but they can't all be happy and wonderful together, so they have to do it apart from one another because that is better and safer. Sometimes a parent or other family member cannot care for a child or family member as they need and other measures need to be taken so that everyone can be safe.

I do not see how this is hard to understand.

And I don't see why, even if you couldn't understand it, you would pull out this racist fuckery.

[poetic_pixie_13]

And I don't see why, even if you couldn't understand it, you would pull out this racist fuckery.

I just see it as old-school colonialism and White Man's Burden. They have to 'raise up' those unruly black and brown people, whose disproportionate rates of poverty and crime are due to things like single-parent households (which are horrible and wrong and anti-apple pie). In some twisted way it's their method of addressing the issues that exist within these communities, instead of looking at a deeply racist society and traps of poverty and history.

[popehippo]

^^^

[salienne]

This is a really good analysis.

It also points to how simplistic their reading of current societal struggles is, and the fact that this sort of warped reading is considered a mainstream view is terrifying.

[ladypolitik]

Break. That. Shit. DOWN.

[celtic_thistle]

Excellent point.

[popehippo]

Seriously, christ. I literally danced around the room the day my father moved out of my home. I was nine. I'd rather have kids who lived happily under one parent or a step-parent or any other system than two parents who hated each other the way I did. :\

[othellia]

This. I wasn't exactly thrilled when my parents got divorced, but at least it meant the yelling every night stopped. Of course then my mom got remarried a year later to another guy and it started all over again this time with bonus suicide threats, but I think that just goes to further show that two parent household does not equal perfect.

[elialshadowpine]

Gods, yes. My parents stayed together "for the kids." I wish they hadn't. I really, really wish they hadn't. :(

[gloraelin]

My two-parent household as a kid led to my PTSD*. I don't know what it would have been like in a one-parent home but considering that when I was growing up I thought my parents hated each other...

*not up to going into details, but that should convey the situation fairly well.

[kyra_neko_rei]

It isn't hard to understand at all; the understanding is just not to their liking.

The wife-as-welfare libertarian streak in them is just too damn happy with the image of every man being king of his own suburban castle with food that magically appears in front of him and children that glow under his attention during the small time he's there.

Oh, and the lack of a large extended family in the near vicinity means he's definitely in charge and his wife would have to get daycare for the kids in order to work, so it "just makes sense" for her to stay home and be dependent on his income and thus in less of a position to be considered his equal.

And all those problems you mentioned would TOTALLY go away if the child was a proper Christian and prayed for it sincerely.