Who thinks "no" means "yes"

[de_wood]

“No means yes”: It’s not just for Yale frat guys, celebrity defense attorneys, and the citizens of opposite land. Nope, that line of reasoning is also a pretty common one among old, privileged ladies, and other groups you may expect to find sitting on the jury of your rape trial

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[celtic_thistle]

dsafhadslkfjhsdlkfjh people who try to justify rape make me RAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGE.

[jeremythunder]

i read that as "people who try to justify rape make me RAAAAAAAAAPE"

[yirimyah]

lol

[morbidoutlook]

Oh no, this had me lol'n.

[de_wood]

Vent, if you need to.

[de_wood]

smh

[escherichiacola]

Yeah, that's not a misunderstanding. If she declined the backrub it should've been pretty clear from then on that she thinks you're extremely creepy.

[sunshinedan]

Can we go from there- If she gave a backrub but then still vocalized rape it is no longer rape?

[sunshinedan]

I am pointing out the problem with saying, "If she declined the backrub it should've been pretty clear from then on that she thinks you're extremely creepy."
It could imply that if I give you a backrub in a "sexually tense" situation that I am opening up Pandora's Sex Box.
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Verbal denial regardless of prior situation should be enough.

[ninius]

asffdgjhhkl; THIS SHOULD NOT BE HAPPENING ANYMORE

[hellovegas]

42 percent would not have found him guilty.

When I got to that part I literally said, "What the hell!" out loud in my office. Do these people not understand that the terror women feel when they are in this situation can lead them to feel paralyzed? Not to mention fighting back IS NOT always the best way to handle situations like this because it can make the rapist more aggressive. When will the world understand that no does mean no and saying no is enough.

[soma910]

When I was in high school, a creep touched my leg on the bus. I was so terrified I couldn't move or say anything, and he was just touching my leg. There is a huuuge paralyzing effect when you're being violated and your mind just keeps thinking, "This isn't happening, this isn't happening, this isn't happening."

[hellovegas]

I witnessed something similar. One time I was at the movies with my friend and the creep next to her started rubbing her side. He did it for a few minutes and slowly became more aggressive. I didn't even notice what was going on until I looked over at her and noticed that she looked (as cliche as it sounds) frozen with fear. It wasn't until I asked her if she was okay that she snapped out of it. Even then she couldn't say what was happening, I had to ask questions and all she could do was nod. She was in a room full of people and was "only" being rubbed on her side and it was so scary she was like a zombie. I can't imagine how terrifying it is for a woman being raped or about to be raped. Shutting down almost seems like the minds way of protecting the victim from what is about to happen.