Teacher Gets 31 Days For Rape Of 14-Year-Old Student...

[jocelyncs]

(CNN) -- A mother in Montana is outraged that a high school teacher who admitted raping her 14-year-old daughter received only a month in prison, while her daughter took her own life

Comments

[mollybarton]

The judge should be removed for the bench.

ETA- don't read the comments at the source. A lot of victim blaming.

[queer_theory]

I should have listened to you. The source comments are... just no.

[the_physicist]

Unsurprising. Didn't look, I barely skimmed the article, otherwise I will smash my laptop. Also didn't want to get triggered. I was 14 when I was raped too. -_- And WTF at the judge being all like 'well, it's not your ~usual kind of rape~, but still rape! but i'm not going to treat it like it was 'real rape'. that judge is jsut... URGH.

[myrrhmade]

Ugh, I'm so sorry.

[the_physicist]

Thanks. I only started really dealing with it properly in the last year or so. And somehow that has made me angrier than ever when it comes to people being victim blaming assholes.

[myrrhmade]

Meh, fuck properly. Now doubt you did what you could, as you were able to do it. (I know what you're saying though and I'm really glad you're on the mend, I hope?). I'm just fucking sorry. And I completely understand your anger, I'm a fellow survivor. I get it. *hugs & <3*

[the_physicist]

Yeah, I thought I'd included a rambling sentence to explain what I meant with 'properly', but I must have deleted it for not making any sense. Cause yeah, i mean, ... pfff... yeah, and that'll be why I deleted the sentence, I can't really put my thoughts into words, but as you said, you know what i mean anyway... and i'm sorry to hear that you do -_- . i didn't know back then that is was common and i thought it was always just me and no one else in the world... and now I know though that it's far too common. *hugs back*

[myrrhmade]

No need to explain, honestly. It is common, and it's weird how a lot of us feel like we're super isolated, or the only ones, or however you say it. I totally knew what you were saying, I just didn't want you laying that on yourself. I know you know what I mean, these internal words can be awful we say to ourselves, ugh.

Meh, anyways, you and I aren't alone, by fucking far, you know?
*more <3 & hugs*

[the_physicist]

Yeah, I know now that I'm not alone and it's heartbreaking to realise that, so it's also hard to take comfort in that, but it's also nice to know there are others out there who understand. I just also wish there weren't any others.

And the whole thing about 'well, it wasn't that bad' etc that also really gets to me, as I'm sure it does to any survivor, because no matter what, it's so easy to try and downplay what happened to get through it and tell yourself that it's not 'that bad' because others have had worse done to them - or any excuse really some times -_- . So yeah, as you say, the words we use and way we think are things to get over too.

urgh, the judge is just the worst.

and more hugs back for you too.

[ebay313]

I know the feeling.
I hope things go well with your healing process <3

[the_physicist]

*hugs* if you want them.

and i have a therapist since December and i think that has helped. i'm not entirely sure i'm 'doing therapy right', because i've never been to a therapist before and i'm very bad at actually, um, doing what you're meant to do, which is talk to your therapist about your problems. i'm a bit hopeless.

[ebay313]

*hugs* don't worry about doing therapy "right", sometimes it takes awile to be able to talk about the things you need to talk about, and everyone will do it on their own time, in their own way both over the course of therapy and session to session.

My old therapist who I loved spent a long time with me coming up with activities and exercises just trying to get me to say something during our sessions. It was a long time before I was able to actually talk to her about why I was there! (And she was a good therapist in part because she was patient through it all with me and never made me feel like I was doing something wrong, or that she expected something from me that I wasn't ready for.)

The right way to do therapy is your way, whatever that is :)

[darth_eldritch]

*HUGS* if you want them.

[the_physicist]

Thank you! And kittens are good.

[moonshaz]

This article, says (in part):

A protest scheduled for Thursday outside Yellowstone County Courthouse will go on despite the apology, said organizer Sheena Rice, stressing that it's important for the community to show it is not going to stand for victim blaming.

A petition will be circulated at the protest calling for Baugh's resignation. An online version of the petition had more than 8,500 signatures by Wednesday morning.

If the petition and protest aren't enough to force Baugh's resignation, protesters will shift to defeating him in the 2014 election, Rice said.

So... people are working on getting him of the bench as we speak!

[mollybarton]

That's good. He is an embarrassment to justice.